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how can i tell my parents? - November 4th 2011, 01:58 AM

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i recently started cutting again after 2 months. i cut all over my wrist instead of the usual stomach cutting. its getting very hard to hide and i think it might be easier to tell them.

thing is, i dont want them to force me to stop or force me to get help. i also dont want them asking tons of stuff about it.

how the hell should i go about telling them?
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Re: how can i tell my parents? - November 4th 2011, 10:05 AM

Really don't think you can avoid that entirely without not telling them. Getting help/support is not a bad thing for this either, if done correctly. Just try to calmly tell them how you've been feeling and that you cut to release the buildup. They're you're parents they love and care for you and all they want is what's best for you.
   
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Re: how can i tell my parents? - November 6th 2011, 03:15 AM

Try writing them a letter. Explain everything in that letter and then deliver it to them. That way you can make sure you say everything you want to without having a nervous stutter or anything.


   
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Re: how can i tell my parents? - November 6th 2011, 08:46 AM

If you tell them, they are obviously going to want you to stop. If you tell your parents that you've been hurting yourself, they aren't going to brush it off and accept it, they're going to want to stop the behaviour and deal with it. They don't want to see their daughter hurting herself.

You could try writing them a letter explaining exactly how you feel, what you've been doing, how you feel about getting help/stopping. Make sure it's detailed and you get down every last detail. They will probably confront you after reading it but it will be so much easier to talk to them after writing the letter as they'll already know how you feel without awkward stuttered conversations.

If you'd rather tell them face to face, just come out and be open and honest about what you've been doing, how you're feeling. If they talk about stopping/getting help, tell them that it might take some time for you to feel as though you can get help/stop cutting. And mention that it's really uncomfortable for you to talk about and suggest that they try not to interrogate and let you speak about it on your own terms.

They could react in many different ways and you have to be prepared to deal with any given reaction.

You'll be ok, good luck with everything.


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