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Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.

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Unhappy Relapse - November 4th 2011, 03:07 AM

So I have been struggling with self harm(cutting) for the last three months. I was self harm free for eight weeks then relapsed and then I just made it to 1 month free, I'm feeling like such a failure right now, because I promised my boy friend that I wouldn't cut but I did because of crap that's been going on with him. I'm trying not to, but it seems like everythings working against me and I keep relapsing.
   
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Re: Relapse - November 4th 2011, 04:56 AM

Aw i'm sorry your having such a hard time. Remember though, you are not a failure! You are special and beautiful and you don't deserve that pain. stay strong <3

I don't know if you have had the chance to look at these, alternatives to self harm, but they maybe helpful for you. They don't work for everyone, but there's a lot on the list so lots to try- http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f12-s...ves-self-harm/

Feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to.
   
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Re: Relapse - November 5th 2011, 02:12 AM

Hey,

I really think you should look at the alternatives thread.
The list of alternatives is very helpful, not all things may work for you, but that is okay, there should be something that will help you on the list.
Also, you should try talking to someone about the issues with your boyfriend, getting advice on how to deal with situations is very useful. Talking to one of your parents or another adult you can trust is useful to.
Try talking to your boyfriend, you don't have to tell him you've cut unless you want to, but you need to tell him how you feel. Keeping your feelings to yourself and him keeping his feelings to himself isn't going to help a relationship work.
Yes, you did tell him you wouldn't harm yourself, but if he is caring and understanding, he will know and understand that quitting SH is a process and that slip ups are going to happen along the way.
I hope I've helped and if you ever need anything, you can PM me and I will be glad to helpStay strong and stop Self Harm before you get really far into it.


"i don't care your intentions. I just want you to know my self-hatred never took me where I wanted to go. At the end of the day...I can pick at the pain but I can't cut it away."

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Re: Relapse - November 6th 2011, 01:34 AM

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Hey,

I really think you should look at the [url= http://www.teenhelp.org/alternatives thread. [/url]
The list of alternatives is very helpful, not all things may work for you, but that is okay, there should be something that will help you on the list.
Also, you should try talking to someone about the issues with your boyfriend, getting advice on how to deal with situations is very useful. Talking to one of your parents or another adult you can trust is useful to.
Try talking to your boyfriend, you don't have to tell him you've cut unless you want to, but you need to tell him how you feel. Keeping your feelings to yourself and him keeping his feelings to himself isn't going to help a relationship work.
Yes, you did tell him you wouldn't harm yourself, but if he is caring and understanding, he will know and understand that quitting SH is a process and that slip ups are going to happen along the way.
I hope I've helped and if you ever need anything, you can PM me and I will be glad to helpStay strong and stop Self Harm before you get really far into it.

The thing about that is that I've tried talking to him about the problems and Friday in 5th period I told him that he was treating me like trash for the last week and he denied it and then said get the fuck out of my life. I mean he says he wants to marry me but I just added him as a friend on tagged and his relationship status is single and it says he's interested in dating and a serious relationship. Someone told me that he told him that it was because of his ex-girlfriend, but I just don't know anymore.
   
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