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Why did I lie?? - December 12th 2011, 09:48 PM

I'm seeing a bloke from work and this evening when I was driving him home, he asked me if I still self harm (he saw my scars). I automatically said no, even though the last time I did it was 2 days ago and he made me promise that I was telling the truth. I don't know why I lied, but he is going to find out eventually that I still cut and I really don't want to have to tell him I lied. I am an idiot.
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Re: Why did I lie?? - December 12th 2011, 09:59 PM

Firstly it is an unfotunate thing that when it comes to addictions and unheathy coping mechanisms you are going to lie about it at some point. You lied to protect him which is completly normal.

I would suggest next time you see him to calmly tell him that you really like him and didn't want him to worry about you, but you have recently self harmed. That you are trying your best to stop, but you still self harm. Then tell him anyway that he can help and support you.

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Re: Why did I lie?? - December 12th 2011, 11:46 PM

Sometimes that is the problem with addictions. You don't want to see the person getting hurt with the truth so you try and cover it up, but like Elizabeth said, maybe you should talk to him about it calmly, and if he asks why you lied just tell him that you are sorry about it but you didn't want to hurt him or make him worry. You are trying your best to stop, and he needs to understand that as well. It seems like he would be a good person to have in your support system!


   
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Re: Why did I lie?? - December 14th 2011, 12:29 AM

I've been in similar situations before. I'm sorry. If you explain it to him and explain why you couldn't tell him in the first place, I'm sure he'll understand. Good luck. PM me anytime you need to talk.
   
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