Butterfly Project

♥ Choir. ♥ · **Butterfly Project -** December 28th 2011, 03:13 AM

Has anyone tried the Butterfly Project before? If so, did it work or help at all? I found out about it last night, but I'm hesitant about trying it. It seems like if you do cut while the butterfly is still visible, all you'd feel is guilt, which would make me not want to try again. Does it help?

Fallenandcantgetup · **Re: Butterfly Project -** December 28th 2011, 03:27 AM

At first I kept messing up an hour after I drew the butterfly. On my 16th birthday I realized that if my kids saw me cutting (when I have them years from now) I didn’t want to have to explain it to them. I tried it again and now its been 2 years since I’ve cut, so it does work. You just have to be willing to make it work.

I'm-moving-on · **Re: Butterfly Project -** December 28th 2011, 03:37 AM

I have tried the butterfly project for a little over a month. It has helped me out a lot.

Dez · Self Expression Forum Mod 4/23/12

I have tried the butterfly project. When I draw my own butterflies, it doesn't work as well. Because of that, I have had a friend draw the butterflies for me. They're more special if a friend draws them, and that friend knows that I have been struggling with SH, too. I think of her any time I want to SH when I have a butterfly on my wrist and try to get her to draw a new one as soon as the old one starts to fade.

Isaiah_41:13 · **Re: Butterfly Project -** December 29th 2011, 03:23 AM

It is working for my friend.I draw them on her,or my boyfriend does.It really helps her a lot.

αγάπη · **Re: Butterfly Project -** December 29th 2011, 03:31 AM

Oh yes, the butterfly project. I tried it a few times, and it actually worked. I "named" the butterflies after someone I care about very much. It gave me the incentive not to "kill" them.
You have to keep at it though. I lost it once, and I haven't tried in since. It helped me when I did it, but like I said, you have to be commited.
You might want to try it, and if it doesn't help, just stop. Good luck. You can PM me sometime if you want to talk.
<3 and

craz33me · **Re: Butterfly Project -** December 29th 2011, 04:48 AM

Yes, it works.
You just have to be willing to let it work.
Trust us.

Iris. ♥ · **Re: Butterfly Project -** December 29th 2011, 05:39 AM

Trust me, it works. Before I started doing it, I talked to a friend about it. She told me that it hurt her to see my scars. She said that it would hurt a lot of people if I knew. So, when you draw the butterfly, think about that. When you cut yourself, you're hurting someone else too. It's definitely helped me on the road to recovery from SH.

Le bonheur* · **Re: Butterfly Project -** December 29th 2011, 01:26 PM

It worked for me when I was at my lowest point, you should try it. If it doesn't work, there's always different alternatives.

Discombobulated · **Re: Butterfly Project -** December 29th 2011, 02:22 PM

Hey there,

I found it quite useful. But as some people have said above naing the butterfly or getting a friend to draw it on sometimes works better as it starts to mean more to you and it reminds you that you care and that they want you to get better.
If you truely want it to help, it will, just believe in yourself

Feel free to PM me if you ever want/need to talk,
take care,
Charli

Sleepwalker · **Re: Butterfly Project -** December 30th 2011, 01:28 AM

I've always liked the Butterfly Project. And as I no longer self-harm, I am going to get a butterfly tattooed on one of my scars, with the scar being the body of the butterfly.

My butterfly will never go away again, and I will never harm it again. Perhaps no one else will know what it means, but I will know.

Good luck in trying to stop, though. It takes a lot of courage and strength. Sometimes I think it's more painful NOT to self-harm than it is to give in to the urges... It's a long road, but it's worth it, and it is possible. I'm always here to talk if you want.

IHateFeelingLikeThis · **Re: Butterfly Project -** December 30th 2011, 10:50 PM

It works pretty good. I've been doing it for about a week now, and have only cut once since. If you believe in yourself you can do it! Best of Luck!(:

bailatyvm · staffie since 8.20.11

I'd definitely recommend it. Make sure you make the butterflies someone you care about a lot, and I honestly wouldn't put them in a spot where you'd see it constantly, because that could be triggering.

staystrongxoxo · **Re: Butterfly Project -** January 12th 2012, 05:03 AM

hi what if you cant draw a butfferfly and noone can ethier?

Childish Giggle · **Re: Butterfly Project -** January 12th 2012, 08:18 AM

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Originally Posted by staystrongxoxo

hi what if you cant draw a butfferfly and noone can ethier?

Why can't you draw one?

You just need to make a decision to do it. And if you want I can draw some to support you too!

Peppermint Tea.♥ · **Re: Butterfly Project -** January 12th 2012, 09:40 AM

I used the butterfly project for a bit. It worked for me because I'm usually quite good at resisting from self harm and when I have one drawn on it gives me a little bit of an extra incentive and I'm very unlikely to cut.

Tegan · **Re: Butterfly Project -** January 12th 2012, 10:23 PM

I've always loved the Butterfly Project, especially as one of my greatest incentives to give up self harm was the people around me who love and care for me. I always found I struggled when I drew on a butterfly with pen as it washed off easily etc. and it was difficult to try and form a sort of attatchement to something that was ultimately very temporary? Instead I bought some really cheap temporary tattoos (the kind you stick on with water?) from claires and put them on. They're a little bit more durable and they reminded me of my girlfriend and my dad and the people I care about, for me it was easier to form associations between the two and ultimately it was one of the most important things on my (slow and difficult) road to giving up self harm. I'm now pretty much self harm free and honestly, if you devote yourself to the butterfly project it really does help!!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sleepwalker

I've always liked the Butterfly Project. And as I no longer self-harm, I am going to get a butterfly tattooed on one of my scars, with the scar being the body of the butterfly.

My butterfly will never go away again, and I will never harm it again. Perhaps no one else will know what it means, but I will know.

I love this! It's absolutely beautiful and such a lovely idea! Congratulations on having the strength to give up! Upload a photo of your tattoo when you get it? :]

Colors Leave Me Blind · **Re: Butterfly Project -** January 12th 2012, 10:41 PM

I currently have a butterfly on my hand. (:

TheCrowing · **Re: Butterfly Project -** January 12th 2012, 11:53 PM

I took a different approach to the butterfly project, a more permanent one (tattoo), but it does work. You just have to believe in it.

RavenLilith · **Re: Butterfly Project -** January 13th 2012, 04:48 PM

I just started the butterfly project about a week ago, and it has helped me. Instead of making all the butterflies look the same, try designing them in a way that is specific to the person you are naming your butterfly for. It will help remind you that they care about you.

Good Luck!

RavenLilith

Rainbow Dash · **Re: Butterfly Project -** January 13th 2012, 08:04 PM

I've done this before but not really for SH. It was more when I was feeling depressed, I drew a butterfly on my arm to look at whenever I was feeling depressed/suicidal. It helped remind me that at one point I was thinking rationally and things will get better.

HighPricedPerfection · **Re: Butterfly Project -** January 13th 2012, 09:38 PM

i'm doing this now and it works for me. I named my butterfly after my friend that killed himself..

TheOneThatGotAway · **Re: Butterfly Project -** January 13th 2012, 10:29 PM

I tried it but it didn't really work for me to begin with but when I got my friend involved it became better because she would be my motivation

give it a go you never know

good luck hun x

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Fallenandcantgetup Offline Member Welcome me, I'm new! * Posts: 39 Join Date: August 9th 2011	Re: Butterfly Project - December 28th 2011, 03:27 AM At first I kept messing up an hour after I drew the butterfly. On my 16th birthday I realized that if my kids saw me cutting (when I have them years from now) I didn’t want to have to explain it to them. I tried it again and now its been 2 years since I’ve cut, so it does work. You just have to be willing to make it work.

I'm-moving-on Offline Buddy Experienced TeenHelper ****** Name: I have one of those? Age: 17 Gender: Female Location: Internet World Posts: 639 Join Date: November 20th 2011	Re: Butterfly Project - December 28th 2011, 03:37 AM I have tried the butterfly project for a little over a month. It has helped me out a lot. Here's to the strong; thanks to the brave. Don't give up hope: some people change. Against all odds, against the grain, Love finds a way: some people change.

Isaiah_41:13 Offline Member Not a n00b ** Name: Marla Ann (Mar) Age: 16 Gender: Female Location: in God's hands Posts: 86 Join Date: April 8th 2011	Re: Butterfly Project - December 29th 2011, 03:23 AM It is working for my friend.I draw them on her,or my boyfriend does.It really helps her a lot. Isaiah 41:13 For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you. God is the God of second chances

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IHateFeelingLikeThis Offline Member Welcome me, I'm new! * Name: Tori Age: 15 Gender: Female Location: Kentucky Posts: 14 Join Date: December 26th 2011	Re: Butterfly Project - December 30th 2011, 10:50 PM It works pretty good. I've been doing it for about a week now, and have only cut once since. If you believe in yourself you can do it! Best of Luck!(: Life isn't about FINDING YOURSELF Life is about CREATING YOURSELF

staystrongxoxo Offline Member Welcome me, I'm new! * Name: kate/willow Age: 13 Gender: Female Location: wa Posts: 1 Join Date: January 12th 2012	Re: Butterfly Project - January 12th 2012, 05:03 AM hi what if you cant draw a butfferfly and noone can ethier?

Colors Leave Me Blind Offline Live Help Operator Not a n00b ** Name: Krista Age: 19 Gender: Female Location: Massachusetts Posts: 94 Join Date: January 12th 2012	Re: Butterfly Project - January 12th 2012, 10:41 PM I currently have a butterfly on my hand. (:

RavenLilith Offline Arms Wide Open Welcome me, I'm new! * Name: Kate Age: 17 Gender: Female Location: Narnia Posts: 4 Join Date: January 10th 2012	Re: Butterfly Project - January 13th 2012, 04:48 PM I just started the butterfly project about a week ago, and it has helped me. Instead of making all the butterflies look the same, try designing them in a way that is specific to the person you are naming your butterfly for. It will help remind you that they care about you. Good Luck! RavenLilith

Rainbow Dash Offline makes everything 20% cooler. Outside, huh? ********** Name: Ceilidh Age: 21 Gender: Female Location: Wales, UK Posts: 4,752 Join Date: August 31st 2009	Re: Butterfly Project - January 13th 2012, 08:04 PM I've done this before but not really for SH. It was more when I was feeling depressed, I drew a butterfly on my arm to look at whenever I was feeling depressed/suicidal. It helped remind me that at one point I was thinking rationally and things will get better.

HighPricedPerfection Offline Defying The Laws Of Gravity Welcome me, I'm new! * Name: Sammy Age: 21 Gender: Female Location: USA Posts: 33 Join Date: January 12th 2012	Re: Butterfly Project - January 13th 2012, 09:38 PM i'm doing this now and it works for me. I named my butterfly after my friend that killed himself..

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