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Question Butterfly Project - December 28th 2011, 03:13 AM

Has anyone tried the Butterfly Project before? If so, did it work or help at all? I found out about it last night, but I'm hesitant about trying it. It seems like if you do cut while the butterfly is still visible, all you'd feel is guilt, which would make me not want to try again. Does it help?
   
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Re: Butterfly Project - December 28th 2011, 03:27 AM

At first I kept messing up an hour after I drew the butterfly. On my 16th birthday I realized that if my kids saw me cutting (when I have them years from now) I didnít want to have to explain it to them. I tried it again and now its been 2 years since Iíve cut, so it does work. You just have to be willing to make it work.
   
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Re: Butterfly Project - December 28th 2011, 03:37 AM

I have tried the butterfly project for a little over a month. It has helped me out a lot.
   
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Re: Butterfly Project - December 28th 2011, 08:33 AM

I have tried the butterfly project. When I draw my own butterflies, it doesn't work as well. Because of that, I have had a friend draw the butterflies for me. They're more special if a friend draws them, and that friend knows that I have been struggling with SH, too. I think of her any time I want to SH when I have a butterfly on my wrist and try to get her to draw a new one as soon as the old one starts to fade.


   
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Re: Butterfly Project - December 29th 2011, 03:23 AM

It is working for my friend.I draw them on her,or my boyfriend does.It really helps her a lot.


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Re: Butterfly Project - December 29th 2011, 03:31 AM

Oh yes, the butterfly project. I tried it a few times, and it actually worked. I "named" the butterflies after someone I care about very much. It gave me the incentive not to "kill" them.
You have to keep at it though. I lost it once, and I haven't tried in since. It helped me when I did it, but like I said, you have to be commited.
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Re: Butterfly Project - December 29th 2011, 04:48 AM

Yes, it works.
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Re: Butterfly Project - December 29th 2011, 05:39 AM

Trust me, it works. Before I started doing it, I talked to a friend about it. She told me that it hurt her to see my scars. She said that it would hurt a lot of people if I knew. So, when you draw the butterfly, think about that. When you cut yourself, you're hurting someone else too. It's definitely helped me on the road to recovery from SH.


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Re: Butterfly Project - December 29th 2011, 01:26 PM

It worked for me when I was at my lowest point, you should try it. If it doesn't work, there's always different alternatives.
   
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Re: Butterfly Project - December 29th 2011, 02:22 PM

Hey there,

I found it quite useful. But as some people have said above naing the butterfly or getting a friend to draw it on sometimes works better as it starts to mean more to you and it reminds you that you care and that they want you to get better.
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Re: Butterfly Project - December 30th 2011, 01:28 AM

I've always liked the Butterfly Project. And as I no longer self-harm, I am going to get a butterfly tattooed on one of my scars, with the scar being the body of the butterfly.

My butterfly will never go away again, and I will never harm it again. Perhaps no one else will know what it means, but I will know.

Good luck in trying to stop, though. It takes a lot of courage and strength. Sometimes I think it's more painful NOT to self-harm than it is to give in to the urges... It's a long road, but it's worth it, and it is possible. I'm always here to talk if you want.


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Re: Butterfly Project - December 30th 2011, 10:50 PM

It works pretty good. I've been doing it for about a week now, and have only cut once since. If you believe in yourself you can do it! Best of Luck!(:


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Re: Butterfly Project - December 31st 2011, 01:16 AM

I'd definitely recommend it. Make sure you make the butterflies someone you care about a lot, and I honestly wouldn't put them in a spot where you'd see it constantly, because that could be triggering.


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Re: Butterfly Project - January 12th 2012, 05:03 AM

hi what if you cant draw a butfferfly and noone can ethier?
   
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Re: Butterfly Project - January 12th 2012, 08:18 AM

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Why can't you draw one? You just need to make a decision to do it. And if you want I can draw some to support you too!



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Re: Butterfly Project - January 12th 2012, 09:40 AM

I used the butterfly project for a bit. It worked for me because I'm usually quite good at resisting from self harm and when I have one drawn on it gives me a little bit of an extra incentive and I'm very unlikely to cut.


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Re: Butterfly Project - January 12th 2012, 10:23 PM

I've always loved the Butterfly Project, especially as one of my greatest incentives to give up self harm was the people around me who love and care for me. I always found I struggled when I drew on a butterfly with pen as it washed off easily etc. and it was difficult to try and form a sort of attatchement to something that was ultimately very temporary? Instead I bought some really cheap temporary tattoos (the kind you stick on with water?) from claires and put them on. They're a little bit more durable and they reminded me of my girlfriend and my dad and the people I care about, for me it was easier to form associations between the two and ultimately it was one of the most important things on my (slow and difficult) road to giving up self harm. I'm now pretty much self harm free and honestly, if you devote yourself to the butterfly project it really does help!!


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I've always liked the Butterfly Project. And as I no longer self-harm, I am going to get a butterfly tattooed on one of my scars, with the scar being the body of the butterfly.

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Re: Butterfly Project - January 12th 2012, 10:41 PM

I currently have a butterfly on my hand. (:
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Re: Butterfly Project - January 12th 2012, 11:53 PM

I took a different approach to the butterfly project, a more permanent one (tattoo), but it does work. You just have to believe in it.


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Red face Re: Butterfly Project - January 13th 2012, 04:48 PM

I just started the butterfly project about a week ago, and it has helped me. Instead of making all the butterflies look the same, try designing them in a way that is specific to the person you are naming your butterfly for. It will help remind you that they care about you.

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Re: Butterfly Project - January 13th 2012, 08:04 PM

I've done this before but not really for SH. It was more when I was feeling depressed, I drew a butterfly on my arm to look at whenever I was feeling depressed/suicidal. It helped remind me that at one point I was thinking rationally and things will get better.


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Re: Butterfly Project - January 13th 2012, 09:38 PM

i'm doing this now and it works for me. I named my butterfly after my friend that killed himself..


   
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Re: Butterfly Project - January 13th 2012, 10:29 PM

I tried it but it didn't really work for me to begin with but when I got my friend involved it became better because she would be my motivation give it a go you never know good luck hun x


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