Is it alright now?

[Jreaper]

The other day, my mother noticed my scars. I told her I fell and she let it go pretty easily. If she doesn't really care, that means I'm not hurting her by hurting myself, right? Does this mean it's alright to cut if I'm only hurting myself?

[Xx.Shes.Unbroken.xX]

Hi Jreaper,

Well, since she doesn't know that you've been cutting, and she thinks the scars are just from a fall.. then, she probably will let it go easily. But, since she did.. that doesn't mean that she doesn't care. Believe me, if she knew.. she would probably be crying. I know my mother did. I told her it was from playing with my cat, she let it go easily as well. Then, when she found out it wasn't from that.. she was extremely sad. So, yes.. you are hurting her, even if she doesn't know it. And, I can't say if it's okay or not... that's really up to you. But, in my opinion.. it's not. If you ever need any alternatives and want to try to get better, there is a thread in the self-harm section that gives alternatives to cutting. (http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f12-s...ves-self-harm/) And, they don't always help over night. So, don't give up trying to get better.

Take Care,
Michelle<3

[Santeria]

The previous post is right in that she would certainly care if she knew the truth, and be sure to check out articles/posts on the site for dealing with SH. Also, even if you weren't hurting anyone else, its not alright to do it because even you don't deserve to be hurt

[Discombobulated]

Hey there,

The fact that you told your mom that it was from a fall explains why she let it go easily. If you told that you were hurting yourself like that I'm pretty sure she would be very upset. If she found out it would be hurting her and it's not my place to tell you if it's okay or not, but surely you don't want to hurt her and you shouldn't want to hurt yoursef either.
I really think you should talk to her or someone else that you trust about this, someone that can help and support you through this.
Also take a look at the alternatives thread next time you get urges, they are trial and error and therefore not all of them may work for you. But hang in there and you WILL find one that does.

If you ever want/need to talk, feel free to PM me,
Take care
Charli

[SM13]

I felt like a huge weight was off of my shoulders once I told my mother. And then she stopped asking about the scars and I didn't have to stress about making up excuses for them and trying to cover them up at home. Home is where you shouldn't have to hide.
~SM~

[αγάπη]

Everyone else is right. She would if she knew, but she obviously has no clue what you are doing. I really think you should tell her the truth, it might help. All the above posts are good.

Maybe you could talk to a school counselor about it? I'm sure they could give you some great alternatives and help you tell your mom. Maybe eventually set up a parent counselor meeting of some kind? Just an idea. Hang in there. You can PM me if you want.