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I dig my nails into my skin until I bleed... help..? - January 31st 2012, 06:24 AM

Hello.
I'm Deanna.
So, basically, every time I'm really upset I start digging my nails into my skin which makes it bleed.
I have no idea how, but one time I had to get stitches because it was so deep.
I honestly want to stop... but I just can't.
I don't know what to do.
I tried the "butterfly project" thing, but when I draw on myself I get yelled at and then I dig inside my skin again.
I really don't want to go into counselling or therapy.
Please help me.


I hate that I love you so much! You don't even notice me :[ I try to move on... but I can't.

   
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Re: I dig my nails into my skin until I bleed... help..? - January 31st 2012, 06:38 AM

Do your parents know why your doing butterfly? Just wondering. Just cut your nails, and wherever u feel like cutting at the moment. Stick a bandage over it. Look at alternatives on here on the sticky also
   
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Re: I dig my nails into my skin until I bleed... help..? - January 31st 2012, 08:12 PM

hey there

i just wanted to let you know some things about counseling.... you see, if the reason you dont want to is plainly because you feel like its over the top, then i feel like you should reassess, because counseling is not at all bad, and in fact many people who do not have serious problems have counselors, and honestly, they do help.

sometimes people try so hard to do things on their own, but honestly its not that easy. you need to try and get some help with your problems...

If MONEY is the problem...
-if you have insurance, there are places that take insurance for counseling. look for them... find them. get help
-no insurance? go into a state hospital. if you need help, you cannot be denied strictly because you have no money....


I used to be in a situation like yours, because you want to rely on yourself/getting help is work. But i cant stress enough the importance it has and the help it will give you.


Good luck, god bless!

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Re: I dig my nails into my skin until I bleed... help..? - February 3rd 2012, 06:03 AM

Hey there,

I'm really sorry things are hard for you at the moment. SH is vicious cycle and hard to stop, and as you probably know it does take time and effort.
The butterfly project is really useful, but obvsiously not so if you get told off for drawing on yourself. There are loads of other alternatives you can try though, just take a look at the alternatives thread. These will help to distract you while the urges fade, it is trial and error and therefore not all of them may work for you, but hang in there and you will find one that does.
I would also suggest talking to someone you trust about this such as a family member, and i know you said you don't want to see a counsellor but as Sora said it can be useful. By talking to someone, they can help and support you through this.

If you ever want/need to talk, feel free to PM me,
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Re: I dig my nails into my skin until I bleed... help..? - February 4th 2012, 04:13 AM

Babe you need to tell someone=( Thats the only way TO get help. If you go through your life with people not knowing whats going on with you, nothings gonna change. This is one of those things you can't do alone. Start by telling mom and dad. They MAY put you in therapy but thats okay. You will be okay. It just sounds scary now but really its not. Therapy is confidential, you never have to say anything you don't want to (some visits you can even just sit there), and they won't judge. They are there to help you and I promise you, they have heard every situation. They have heard about people i'm sure that are much worse off than you. Please don't be scared to do it because I know it would help you tremendously and you'd be a happier person.


   
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Re: I dig my nails into my skin until I bleed... help..? - February 5th 2012, 05:41 PM

Power To Tolerate

You have the power to tolerate anyone and any situation. But tolerance is not just suffering in silence. It means going beyond any personal discomfort you may feel, and giving a gift to whom ever you would tolerate. Give your time, attention, understanding, compassion, care - all are gifts, which paradoxically, you also receive in the process of giving. And, as you do, you will experience your own self esteem and inner strength grow. In this way you can turn tolerance into strength.
   
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