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Exclamation im afraid... - February 13th 2012, 05:35 AM

im afraid when my BoyFriend and i finally get to see eachother he will notice my scars and he thinks i tried to kill myself or something...

im crying my eyes out because i dont want to lose him!!!!!!




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Re: im afraid... - February 13th 2012, 06:35 AM

If he is your boyfriend he should try to help you not judge you. He should be supporting you and not trying to make you feel any worse. You dont have to show your scars to any one if you dont want to. If he wants to see them you have a right to say no. He should respect your no. If he thinks you tryed to kill yourself and you did not try to kill your self then explain that to him. Tell him you did not try to kill your self that cutting is not a suicide attempt. I dont think you will loose him if you just explain the situation. If hes understanding and supportive then that is great he wont leave you. If hes not supportive or understaning then just think do you really want a boyfriend like that. Huggss hope you feel better.
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Re: im afraid... - February 13th 2012, 07:56 AM

thx... but i dont really know if i would have the guts to be able to tell him... and i know i have the right to say no but i want to have a truthfull relationship...




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Re: im afraid... - February 13th 2012, 02:11 PM

i only have scars left i try not to cut anymore but i do have slip-ups...




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Re: im afraid... - February 13th 2012, 07:04 PM

As I said to your other thread.. just lay it out as it is.. mention it is a thing of the past.. and you do have it under control.. if he cares about you, then he should accept you for who you are at the end of the day.. scars or no scars..

Also cutting is not a form of trying to kill yourself.. its a coping mechanism, tell him that perhaps, get some information on self-harm?

Its not gonna be an easy conversation..
   
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Re: im afraid... - February 14th 2012, 12:18 AM

We all have slip ups its okay. You are strong your trying the best you can thats all that matters. Of course you want a truthful relationship. If you tell him about the cuts but dont show him thats still being truthful. Yup like me and ellie said cutting is not a suicide attempt tell him that. I hope he is supportive when you tell him and doesnt make fun of you. Were here for you too {: Good luck. If your suicidal call 911.
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Re: im afraid... - February 14th 2012, 12:29 AM

Im NOT a suicidal person... NEVER would i try to kill my self...




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Re: im afraid... - February 14th 2012, 12:35 AM

Thats good to hear you would never do it.
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Re: im afraid... - February 14th 2012, 12:42 AM

I was never suicidal in the first place...




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Re: im afraid... - February 14th 2012, 01:51 AM

Im sorry I upset you. I was not trying to. I was just worried about you thats all I care. That was just a caution on my part. Hope every thing works out with the bf.
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Re: im afraid... - February 14th 2012, 01:58 PM

thx... im sorry i snapped... i didnt mean too...




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Re: im afraid... - February 15th 2012, 05:18 AM

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Re: im afraid... - February 16th 2012, 01:03 AM

If he notices then tell him what you've been through and that you need help. If he loves you, then he'll be there to help. He'll be upset that you hurt yourself, but try to make a promise that you'll try not to do it. I did that with my boyfriend a year ago, and this is my 2nd year without cutting


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Re: im afraid... - February 16th 2012, 02:05 PM

Awww thats nice to hear!!!!!!! but I have stopped... i just wanted to know what to do, because i dont wanna lie and say something like i was in a car wreck a few years ago or something along the lines of that...

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