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Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.

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Shouldn't be doing this... - February 20th 2012, 05:01 PM

I've started taking laxatives which cause stomach cramps. I take them because they hurt, but they take four hours to kick in and usually by then I don't want the pain anymore. I know it's stupid but this morning I spent ages trying to decide whether or not to take them and I still did. Does this count as self harm, and also how can I stop? I know about the alternatives thread but it doesn't really help because it's not cutting. How can I stop actually wanting to take pills?


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Re: Shouldn't be doing this... - February 22nd 2012, 03:08 PM

Hey Hester

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"Self-injury, self-inflicted violence, self-injurious behavior or self-mutilation is defined as a deliberate, intentional injury to one’s own body that causes tissue damage or leaves marks for more than a few minutes which is done to cope with an overwhelming or distressing situation.
It is deliberate, intentional injury to your body and must be damaging tissues or something else ( I don't know how the cause the cramps) and you are using it as a coping method so yeah, this is Self Harm.

Here are some alternatives for you-

Try delaying

Get on TH and answer some threads
Take a shower
Go out and be around people
Call a friend
Call a hotline

Express your destructive feelings

Break something safe
Break old dishes you bought from a thrift store
Rip apart an old cassette tape, smash the casing
Throw ice cubes at a brick wall
Throw eggs in the shower
Rip apart an old phone book
Smash fruit with a bat or sledgehammer
Throw darts at picture of perp
Punch pillows
Scream into a pillow
Slam doors

Express your feelings

Write what you're feeling. Don't edit, just write. Stream of consciousness
Identify what it is that is hurting so bad that you'd rather harm yourselves than feel it. What are you trying NOT to feel?

When you feel like taking them again, get away from them. Move out of the house. Ride a bike fast and far. Run, walk. Anything. Go shop.
And maybe when you're feeling better, you can just throw away those laxatives.
I hope this helps, though these are the usual alternatives. But like it said in the alternatives list, tell your self that you'll take it after 15 minutes if you don't feel better, keep doing that and congratulate yourself on every minute you don't take the laxatives, if this works for you.

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Re: Shouldn't be doing this... - February 25th 2012, 02:45 PM

Thank you. Things have got a little better today, I haven't taken any yet and I'm not planning to at the moment.


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Re: Shouldn't be doing this... - February 25th 2012, 03:46 PM

Hey there,

Anything done to to intentionally hurt you or harm your body can be classed as Self harm, so yes it can be. Taking a lot of laxitives and too many of them can be dangerous and bad for you.
You said you had looked at the alternatives thread, but they are for anytype of SH not just cutting. I'm sure there are some in there that can help to distract you.
Also I would suggest getting rid of the pills and perhaps talk to a friend or family member about it, someone that can help and support you through.

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Re: Shouldn't be doing this... - February 25th 2012, 03:46 PM

Hey Hester!

Looks like Suv already gave you a wide list to pick from.
Try to externalize your hurt, and express it. Hurting yourself isn't going to solve anything. It makes you feel worse, and what's more, it makes you weaker, and so, it's harder to deal with what you're feeling, so the automatic solution would be to do something that makes you feel relief and that happens when you hurt yourself, in any which manner. The alternates thread, isn't just for people who cut and such. It's for people who engage in any sort of self harm.
I'm glad to hear things have gotten better. Keep it up. Just know that, with every second that don't take those laxatives, you're a second closer to recovering. I know this may be really hard for you to do, but throw out your laxatives. I know it's harsh to quite cold turkey, but that gives you reason to turn to an alternate, safer way of getting that pent up pain out.

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