TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives


You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
Ella.x Offline
Member
I've been here a while
********
 
Ella.x's Avatar
 
Name: Ella
Age: 28
Gender: Female
Location: England

Posts: 1,461
Join Date: February 24th 2009

fear of stopping - March 21st 2012, 11:19 PM

So, today my therapist asked me if we could come up with a date that I will throw away my blades and stuff that I self harm with. I completely panicked and couldn't give her a date. I even went as far as to tell her that I don't want to stop self harming, I just want to sort my head out. I really really want to be able to turn my back on self harm, but the thought of not having it as an option is so terrifying. I was on the verge of a panic attack from my therapist just mentioning that I might throw away my blades. I've been doing it for 7 years and I know that I'm scared because it's the only thing I know and it works.
My question is, how do I stop the fear? I know I need to throw away my blades in order to start moving on, but at the moment even the thought of that is giving me panic attacks. I'm getting really angry at myself because by not being able to make any progress with stopping my self harm, I'm making it seem like I don't want to and I'm scared that they'll cut off my therapy and stuff if I can't commit to it. I just need to know how to stop being so scared of throwing away my stupid razors. Can anyone help?
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Solivagant Offline
Previously Apple of your eye
I've been here a while
********
 
Solivagant's Avatar
 
Name: Suv
Age: 23
Gender: Female

Posts: 1,871
Blog Entries: 33
Join Date: January 9th 2011

Re: fear of stopping - March 22nd 2012, 03:11 PM

Hey Ella

I can understand where you're coming from. Throwing away your blades is a BIG step. Especially because it is something you've depended on for so long and the thought of not having it during the tough times can be scary. But that doesn't change the fact that we must throw them away.

Have you discussed about alternatives and coping techniques with your therapist? If not, then please do that as soon as possible. Having an alternative at hand can give you the confidence for throwing them away. When you have the urges, talk to someone. Any friends, family, your therapist or a hotline. Distract yourself. You've been around on the site for a long time so I am guessing that you know about the alternatives thread. Even if you do, please go though them once again. It keeps getting additions and you might find some alternative that works for you.

There will be some time during the day when you feel particularly positive about stopping and feel like throwing away the blades. Prepare yourself mentally beforehand for it. Tell yourself that when you feel like that, you must act on it and throw them away. Or instruct someone else to do it for you.

I hope that this helps
Please don't hesitate to PM/VM me if you want to talk.
Take care and stay strong

You can do this. Believe in you, in your strength. <3



"Words are, in my not so humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic, capable of both inflicting injury and remedying it."

-Albus Dumbledore, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows
   
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
Sadandlonely_OG Offline
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
Sadandlonely_OG's Avatar
 
Name: Rocio
Age: 30
Gender: Female

Posts: 9
Join Date: March 21st 2012

Re: fear of stopping - March 23rd 2012, 04:46 PM

What if you compromise? Throw out some of your "tools" and don't add anymore. Everyday you have a great day you throw out another.

You could also make rules for being able to go into the "toolbox". Like trying at least 2 coping techniques from the alternatives thread.

It's great that your getting help. Keep it up remember it can't rain forever.
   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
fear, stopping

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2019, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.