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How are you beating Self Harm? - March 30th 2012, 11:31 AM

You know, the battle with self harm isn't always about how long you've gone without it for. Sometimes it's about the little victories. I thought it would be nice to have a thread where we can share our little accomplishments, like ignoring an urge, successfully using a distraction, recognising and dealing with a trigger, or any other things that have helped.

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Today I realised I was getting triggered, so I removed myself from the situation and went for a walk instead.

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Re: What have you done? - March 30th 2012, 11:55 AM

I was going to cut last night but I talked to a friend and he was able to cheer me up. I've been 67 days cut free
   
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Re: What have you done? - March 30th 2012, 09:13 PM

Instead of harming myself, I cuddled with my stuffed dog and watched Friends until I fell asleep.
   
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Re: What have you done? - March 30th 2012, 10:49 PM

I went and had lunch with friends, and then finished my book.
   
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Re: What have you done? - April 8th 2012, 02:50 AM

I've really wanted to cut since this afternoon and still want to after something one of my closest friends said. But I haven't and I'm trying not to.


"Just open your eyes and see that life is beautiful..." ~Sixx:A.M.
   
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Re: What have you done? - April 8th 2012, 04:46 AM

I made a challenge with my friend to not self harm for as long as possible and beat some records. I'm 22 days SH free currently, going for a month.


   
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Re: What have you done? - April 8th 2012, 10:35 AM

I did some revision and make myself some tea. Now I'm listening to music and watching a cheesey movie.
   
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Re: What have you done? - April 9th 2012, 03:20 AM

I love the idea, Chess. <3
I ate chocolate to help myself feel better, and surprisingly, it worked.


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Re: What have you done? - April 9th 2012, 03:50 AM

I took some time to talk to someone about what was triggering me, and it helped me see clearly.
   
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Re: What have you done? - April 9th 2012, 04:46 AM

A really awesome person just gave me another idea.. It's kind of related to the butterfly project. He had me draw a caterpillar, then it going into its cocoon, then it starting to come out of its cocoon, then the most beautiful butterfly I possibly could. It helped.
   
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Re: What have you done? - April 9th 2012, 11:35 AM

I think this is a brilliant idea Chess.

I went for a walk and rung my best friend


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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 10th 2012, 03:10 AM

I was going to cut. I really was. And then I took a deep breath, put the blade down, and walked out of the bathroom. And now I'm watching some Doctor Who.


DAY AFTER DAY, GIVE ME CLOUDS AND RAIN AND GRAY. ♥
   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 10th 2012, 01:01 PM

I started a new arty project




   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 10th 2012, 01:08 PM

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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 10th 2012, 09:22 PM

I've been talking to a friend for hours and he has been really nice! I shared so much with him today and he wasn't judgmental even once!



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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 10th 2012, 11:31 PM

Instead of doing something I knew I'd regret, I told someone my thoughts & they stayed up with me talking about it until I feel asleep.
   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 10th 2012, 11:54 PM

When I have the urge to cut, what I do to ignore it is watch youtube videos or listen to music.




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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 11th 2012, 02:12 AM

I went running.
   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 11th 2012, 02:51 AM

I took a shower instead of self harming.


   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 11th 2012, 05:21 AM

This is a great idea!
I was just about to cut, I had a blade next to me, but i put it away, and now im watching Harry Potter and trying to distract myself.





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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 11th 2012, 10:39 AM

I turned my urges into creativity and started a new story.


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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 11th 2012, 11:04 PM

I have a vodo doll and I stab it instead of myself.


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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 11th 2012, 11:55 PM

I talked to my gf on the phone and now I'm watching a funny tv show.
   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 12th 2012, 01:23 AM

I try telling myself that hurting myself is hurting others. It doesn't always work, but sometimes it's brilliant.


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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 12th 2012, 02:35 AM

Today I was literally about to self harm but I went out and finished a letter instead once I saw my sister.


   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 12th 2012, 12:03 PM

I put on a movie and now I'm looking at buying more books.
   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 12th 2012, 01:00 PM

I rearranged my books, CD's and DVD's into genre and then alphabetical order. Then I made myself some chicken noodle soup because it always makes me feel better and now I'm chilling out listening to music until I go to see my mum in about hald an hour. Distraction seems to be working today
   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 13th 2012, 02:34 AM

I went and ran two miles plus some bleachers till I cleared my head but it only helped for two days.
   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 13th 2012, 02:40 AM

Im NOOTTTTT
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 13th 2012, 02:52 AM

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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 13th 2012, 02:54 AM

I dont want to but thanks. I dont really do it.
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 13th 2012, 12:27 PM

I'm avoiding being in my room on my own and staying with my family so I wont give in.

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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 13th 2012, 01:12 PM

Last night I stayed up with her, and today I got up early and went shopping, now I'm distracting myself on here.
   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 13th 2012, 03:52 PM

Last night I watched Greenwing and texted my boyfriend and in the morning I realised that I had gone with self harm on a night where I had thought it would be impossible.


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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 13th 2012, 04:19 PM

I went to group therapy and then went to my local MIND's young adults meeting place.
   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 13th 2012, 10:28 PM

I promised a good friend i wouldn't. I just think about how disappointed she would be. It helps.





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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 13th 2012, 11:27 PM

I wrote the first part of my paper.
   
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 14th 2012, 06:26 AM

All I'm doing is watching Tobuscus LPs on YouTube. Both distracting and ridiculously funny, so it's great.


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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 14th 2012, 06:36 AM

I thought about how much my cousin would hate it if I broke my promise to her.


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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? - April 14th 2012, 07:32 AM

This may seem kinda obvious () but I wrote in my journal. Writing always makes me feel good. x


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