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How are you beating Self Harm? -
March 30th 2012, 10:31 AM
You know, the battle with self harm isn't always about how long you've gone without it for. Sometimes it's about the little victories. I thought it would be nice to have a thread where we can share our little accomplishments, like ignoring an urge, successfully using a distraction, recognising and dealing with a trigger, or any other things that have helped.
I'll start.
Today I realised I was getting triggered, so I removed myself from the situation and went for a walk instead.
Your turn.
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March 30th 2012, 10:55 AM
I was going to cut last night but I talked to a friend and he was able to cheer me up. I've been 67 days cut free 
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March 30th 2012, 08:13 PM
Instead of harming myself, I cuddled with my stuffed dog and watched Friends until I fell asleep. 
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March 30th 2012, 09:49 PM
I went and had lunch with friends, and then finished my book.
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April 8th 2012, 01:50 AM
I've really wanted to cut since this afternoon and still want to after something one of my closest friends said. But I haven't and I'm trying not to.
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April 8th 2012, 03:46 AM
I made a challenge with my friend to not self harm for as long as possible and beat some records. I'm 22 days SH free currently, going for a month.
Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
Like you're not really happy but you don't wanna die
Like you're hanging by a thread but you gotta survive
'Cause you gotta survive
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April 8th 2012, 09:35 AM
I did some revision and make myself some tea. Now I'm listening to music and watching a cheesey movie.
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April 9th 2012, 02:20 AM
I love the idea, Chess. <3
I ate chocolate to help myself feel better, and surprisingly, it worked. 
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April 9th 2012, 02:50 AM
I took some time to talk to someone about what was triggering me, and it helped me see clearly.
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April 9th 2012, 03:46 AM
A really awesome person just gave me another idea.. It's kind of related to the butterfly project. He had me draw a caterpillar, then it going into its cocoon, then it starting to come out of its cocoon, then the most beautiful butterfly I possibly could. It helped.
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April 9th 2012, 10:35 AM
I think this is a brilliant idea Chess.
I went for a walk and rung my best friend
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April 10th 2012, 02:10 AM
I was going to cut. I really was. And then I took a deep breath, put the blade down, and walked out of the bathroom. And now I'm watching some Doctor Who.
DAY AFTER DAY, GIVE ME CLOUDS AND RAIN AND GRAY. ♥
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April 10th 2012, 12:01 PM
I started a new arty project
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April 10th 2012, 12:08 PM
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April 10th 2012, 08:22 PM
I've been talking to a friend for hours and he has been really nice! I shared so much with him today and he wasn't judgmental even once!
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April 10th 2012, 10:31 PM
Instead of doing something I knew I'd regret, I told someone my thoughts & they stayed up with me talking about it until I feel asleep.
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April 10th 2012, 10:54 PM
When I have the urge to cut, what I do to ignore it is watch youtube videos or listen to music.
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April 11th 2012, 01:12 AM
I went running.
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April 11th 2012, 01:51 AM
I took a shower instead of self harming.
Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
Like you're not really happy but you don't wanna die
Like you're hanging by a thread but you gotta survive
'Cause you gotta survive
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April 11th 2012, 04:21 AM
This is a great idea!
I was just about to cut, I had a blade next to me, but i put it away, and now im watching Harry Potter and trying to distract myself.
From day one I talked about getting out
But not forgetting about
How all my worst fears are letting out
He said, "Why put a new address on the same old loneliness?"
When breathing just passes the time
Until we all just get old and die
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April 11th 2012, 09:39 AM
I turned my urges into creativity and started a new story.
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April 11th 2012, 10:04 PM
I have a vodo doll and I stab it instead of myself.
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April 11th 2012, 10:55 PM
I talked to my gf on the phone and now I'm watching a funny tv show. 
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April 12th 2012, 12:23 AM
I try telling myself that hurting myself is hurting others. It doesn't always work, but sometimes it's brilliant.
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April 12th 2012, 01:35 AM
Today I was literally about to self harm but I went out and finished a letter instead once I saw my sister.
Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
Like you're not really happy but you don't wanna die
Like you're hanging by a thread but you gotta survive
'Cause you gotta survive
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April 12th 2012, 11:03 AM
I put on a movie and now I'm looking at buying more books. 
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April 12th 2012, 12:00 PM
I rearranged my books, CD's and DVD's into genre and then alphabetical order. Then I made myself some chicken noodle soup because it always makes me feel better and now I'm chilling out listening to music until I go to see my mum in about hald an hour. Distraction seems to be working today
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April 13th 2012, 01:34 AM
I went and ran two miles plus some bleachers till I cleared my head but it only helped for two days.
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April 13th 2012, 01:40 AM
Im NOOTTTTT
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April 13th 2012, 01:52 AM
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You can do this. Stay strong.  It's hard, but you CAN do this.
Everyone is doing so wonderful, keep it up!
I went to therapy today and seeing how proud she was of me making it almost a month really helped.
Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
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April 13th 2012, 01:54 AM
I dont want to but thanks. I dont really do it.
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April 13th 2012, 11:27 AM
I'm avoiding being in my room on my own and staying with my family so I wont give in.
You guys are doing well, keep it up. <3
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April 13th 2012, 12:12 PM
Last night I stayed up with her, and today I got up early and went shopping, now I'm distracting myself on here.
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April 13th 2012, 02:52 PM
Last night I watched Greenwing and texted my boyfriend and in the morning I realised that I had gone with self harm on a night where I had thought it would be impossible.
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
April 13th 2012, 03:19 PM
I went to group therapy and then went to my local MIND's young adults meeting place.
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April 13th 2012, 09:28 PM
I promised a good friend i wouldn't. I just think about how disappointed she would be. It helps.
From day one I talked about getting out
But not forgetting about
How all my worst fears are letting out
He said, "Why put a new address on the same old loneliness?"
When breathing just passes the time
Until we all just get old and die
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
April 13th 2012, 10:27 PM
I wrote the first part of my paper.
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Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
April 14th 2012, 05:26 AM
All I'm doing is watching Tobuscus LPs on YouTube. Both distracting and ridiculously funny, so it's great.
DAY AFTER DAY, GIVE ME CLOUDS AND RAIN AND GRAY. ♥
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I'm as sane as I ever was.
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April 14th 2012, 05:36 AM
I thought about how much my cousin would hate it if I broke my promise to her.
wanderlust consumed her;
foreign hearts & exotic minds compelled her.
she had a gypsy soul
and a vibrant heart for the unknown.
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April 14th 2012, 06:32 AM
This may seem kinda obvious ( ) but I wrote in my journal. Writing always makes me feel good. x
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