How are you beating Self Harm?

[Lumos.]

I went on Tumblr.

[oldaccount]

Pretending my boyfriend is with me.

Primarily three things:

1) Truly knowing and accepting that I cannot SH anymore. I recognize the effects my SH has on my life and my relationships. I can and choose to no longer jeopardize my stability, my well-being, my happiness, my relationships and my physical life.

2) Practicing self-kindness and compassion. I know I am a worthwhile human being who deserves to be loved and cherished, and I treat myself as such. The more I show myself compassion, the easier it is to remember I deserve happiness instead of pain and grief.

3) Working through my emotions. Self-harm was how I distracted myself from focusing on my feelings. Now if I am angry, or upset, or sad, or anxious I sit with the feeling and work myself through it in healthy and constructive ways, like going for a run, watching or reading funny things, cleaning or talking to a trusted friend or family member.

[craz33me]

My boyfriend tbh.
He keeps me from it, and he makes me promise not to.
But when I'm with him, I can't do it.
I'm just happy. <3

[einstein's dog]

i play with a blob of blu-tac to keep my hands busy.

i keep a journal for my emotions.

i made bracelets representing my best friends and my boyfriend so i think of them instead of harming.

i talk to my boyfriend about it and usually he manages to talk me out of it.

i talk to someone on here whenever i have something that may trigger me.

little stuff like that

[amystery]

I have quite the list but lately here are some of the things that keep me going...

-I made a list of all the reasons I needed to quit harming myself

-I have an amazing support system of online friends and TH members who encourage me to keep going and are there to talk things out when I need them. Not sure if any of them will read this post but to all of you THANKS..a thank you is not enough but unfortunately its all I can give you back. Your unwavering support means more to me than you can even begin to imagine

-I bought a bracelet with a quote I love "Dreams become a reality one choice at a time"--I wear it every single day and it reminds me that the little choices matter and I need to hang in there

-I've reached 7 months and am nearing 8 months free of self harm...something I'm not ready to give up

-truthfully? a lot of it is to prove to myself and my ex that I'm not as much of a mess and disaster as I have been previously. Hurting my ex and putting him through all the things i put him through...and watching our relationship crumble is one of my biggest motivations to keep going. I want him to go on with his life and move past the shit I put him through..I don't want him to have to worry about me anymore…and I NEVER want him to see me break down again.

-I want to prove that I'm strong enough to quit without leaning on him and without therapy etc

-for all the people I’ve promised I wouldn’t harm myself anymore.

-so my parents never have to know how bad it got and I don’t have to cause my brother and parents the same pain n struggles that my brother’s depression and self-harm caused me

-I’ve already screwed up my knuckle…probably for good since it still gives me trouble and hurts close to a year later. My damage and scars were becoming more serious…basically just recognizing the long-term effects my self-harm was leaving me with physically as well as emotionally

· the emotionally and mentally draining effects and just the emotional/mental exhaustion of dealing with the issue—it effected/s every relationship I had as well as my capability to enter into new relationships and friendships…I entirely closed myself off from the world

-my self-harm had a lot to do with feeling in control and I definitely let it spin out of control…so Im trying to make quitting about regaining control and proving I can make it without it

-the little things: simply keeping myself busy with other things, texting someone when Im low, pinterest, movies, anything to distract myself, blogging, reading TH posts and blogs, cuddling a pillow or stuffed animal, sleep, etc…Its all about the little victories…each day hr or even minute I was/am self harm free means Im better off than I once was.

[Lumos.]

I have a few today:
-Music
-I want people to trust me
-Im happier when i don't cut

[Ennui.]

I put the tool away. For Peter. <3

[oldaccount]

I don't want my boyfriend to look at the damage done and ask me what made it.

[bellatink]

I cried, a lot

[Tigereyes]

Cried a lot, attempted to play the piano, and texted my best friend. I was so close...I'm so glad my friend texted when she did; things were pretty bad.

[tryingtostaystrongx]

Its difficult to stop SH when there's no one around you who really understands, who i can talk to...any advice for what i can do?

[oldaccount]

I'm not putting a downer on our anniversary.

[Validity]

Trying to hide from the world so I have no reason. I still find reasons locked away.

Jay.

[ducttapeswagga]

I exercise to curb my craving. Knowing that I'm doing something to benefit my body instead of harming it gives me the extra encouragement I need to make it to my one year mark of being self harm free. Today is day #96. I can do it.

[.:PrincessZelda:.]

Drawing.

[oldaccount]

Not being satisfied with the tools I have.

[Spellbound]

I haven't thought about harming myself at all since I got my kitten Charlie

[theinfatuatedpanda]

Facebooking 24/7 or making myself busy with all the pending schoolwork.

[WhoAmI?]

Listening to and creating music. Eating one spicy thing a day keeps the endorphins in check.

[Ennui.]

Cried and then went to bed to sleep the frustration away.

[Lumos.]

Well music has been stopping me lately. Or the promise I made to my best friend.

[oldaccount]

Taking super precautionary measures not to get caught, which actually makes it impossible. Whatever way it works, right?

[Palmolive]

I've been on webcam with my beautiful friend for nearly 12 hours.

And I'm seeing the crisis team soon. (we'll see if that helps.)

[ALittleLost]

I listen to music that makes me happy

[Ennui.]

I went to bed! Look at sleep, saving the day again.

[ElsatheDepressionSlayer]

I was over 8 1/2 months self harm free, but I slipped up rather badly a week-ish ago. I could feel myself falling right back into the addiction, but I had a strong day on Thursday. I decided I didn't want it and I'm going to fight.

On Friday, my friend came over and helped me destroy then throw away my blade. I'll see how it goes from here.

[Validity]

I think I'm going to talk to my boyfriend about it and ask him if he can help...

Jay.

[Palmolive]

I'm sat here replying to threads ... although I think I may fall asleep

[Storyteller.]

I did some writing, and hung out with friends. Now I'm too tired to even contemplate it.

[Evanescent]

I worked on therapy homework until I was so tired that I had to go to sleep.

[Validity]

I read a book and then wrote some more of my own...

Jay.

[Lumos.]

I wrote more for my essay. Now im watching a movie.

[Lori8118]

I wanted to cut my wrists again last week but I called my friends and she took me out and let me sleep over her house to take my mind off it

[ElsatheDepressionSlayer]

I asked my friend Justine to draw a butterfly on me. I DON'T want to kill it, so I've been staying strong.

[oldaccount]

Not wanting my boyfriend to feel like he's not good enough to make me happy.

[.:PrincessZelda:.]

Listening to music

[Validity]

Listening to music and sitting on here, next move to have a cold shower (as cold as I can stand) it's a hot night so yeah. Cold would give me a sensation

Jay.

[Greenie]

Chatting with my family, called kids helpline, Going on YouTube, avoiding triggering material

[Celaena-Sardothian]

Reading!!!! I tell myself that I need to get to page, say, 100, before I can SH, and by that point I'm too involved in the story to bother Slightly strange, but it works for me