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Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
October 7th 2012, 02:10 PM
I went on Tumblr.
From day one I talked about getting out
But not forgetting about
How all my worst fears are letting out
He said, "Why put a new address on the same old loneliness?"
When breathing just passes the time
Until we all just get old and die
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
October 8th 2012, 06:19 PM
Primarily three things:
1) Truly knowing and accepting that I cannot SH anymore. I recognize the effects my SH has on my life and my relationships. I can and choose to no longer jeopardize my stability, my well-being, my happiness, my relationships and my physical life.
2) Practicing self-kindness and compassion. I know I am a worthwhile human being who deserves to be loved and cherished, and I treat myself as such. The more I show myself compassion, the easier it is to remember I deserve happiness instead of pain and grief.
3) Working through my emotions. Self-harm was how I distracted myself from focusing on my feelings. Now if I am angry, or upset, or sad, or anxious I sit with the feeling and work myself through it in healthy and constructive ways, like going for a run, watching or reading funny things, cleaning or talking to a trusted friend or family member.
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
October 9th 2012, 06:00 AM
I have quite the list but lately here are some of the things that keep me going...
-I made a list of all the reasons I needed to quit harming myself
-I have an amazing support system of online friends and TH members who encourage me to keep going and are there to talk things out when I need them. Not sure if any of them will read this post but to all of you THANKS..a thank you is not enough but unfortunately its all I can give you back. Your unwavering support means more to me than you can even begin to imagine
-I bought a bracelet with a quote I love "Dreams become a reality one choice at a time"--I wear it every single day and it reminds me that the little choices matter and I need to hang in there
-I've reached 7 months and am nearing 8 months free of self harm...something I'm not ready to give up
-truthfully? a lot of it is to prove to myself and my ex that I'm not as much of a mess and disaster as I have been previously. Hurting my ex and putting him through all the things i put him through...and watching our relationship crumble is one of my biggest motivations to keep going. I want him to go on with his life and move past the shit I put him through..I don't want him to have to worry about me anymore…and I NEVER want him to see me break down again.
-I want to prove that I'm strong enough to quit without leaning on him and without therapy etc
-for all the people I’ve promised I wouldn’t harm myself anymore.
-so my parents never have to know how bad it got and I don’t have to cause my brother and parents the same pain n struggles that my brother’s depression and self-harm caused me
-I’ve already screwed up my knuckle…probably for good since it still gives me trouble and hurts close to a year later. My damage and scars were becoming more serious…basically just recognizing the long-term effects my self-harm was leaving me with physically as well as emotionally
· the emotionally and mentally draining effects and just the emotional/mental exhaustion of dealing with the issue—it effected/s every relationship I had as well as my capability to enter into new relationships and friendships…I entirely closed myself off from the world
-my self-harm had a lot to do with feeling in control and I definitely let it spin out of control…so Im trying to make quitting about regaining control and proving I can make it without it
-the little things: simply keeping myself busy with other things, texting someone when Im low, pinterest, movies, anything to distract myself, blogging, reading TH posts and blogs, cuddling a pillow or stuffed animal, sleep, etc…Its all about the little victories…each day hr or even minute I was/am self harm free means Im better off than I once was.
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
October 9th 2012, 11:45 PM
I have a few today:
-Music
-I want people to trust me
-Im happier when i don't cut
From day one I talked about getting out
But not forgetting about
How all my worst fears are letting out
He said, "Why put a new address on the same old loneliness?"
When breathing just passes the time
Until we all just get old and die
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
October 10th 2012, 11:02 AM
I put the tool away. For Peter. <3
Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
Like you're not really happy but you don't wanna die
Like you're hanging by a thread but you gotta survive
'Cause you gotta survive
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
October 12th 2012, 10:17 PM
Cried a lot, attempted to play the piano, and texted my best friend. I was so close...I'm so glad my friend texted when she did; things were pretty bad.
"Just open your eyes and see that life is beautiful..." ~Sixx:A.M.
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
October 15th 2012, 10:15 AM
Trying to hide from the world so I have no reason. I still find reasons locked away.
Jay.
Buddy since 18/11/12 LiveHelp Operator since 22/12/12 Add me on Facebook Jay Louise Shorrock!
A whisper in the dark; is better than silence in the light. -Courtesy of your's truly.
My blog is open to all, those whom are easily triggered avoid, it's a story about a girl and her life and how far she has come over the years. If you read it, I hope it inspires you to keep fighting and to NEVER give up!
When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you must think of a reason to start over.
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
October 18th 2012, 03:55 AM
I exercise to curb my craving. Knowing that I'm doing something to benefit my body instead of harming it gives me the extra encouragement I need to make it to my one year mark of being self harm free. Today is day #96. I can do it.
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
November 5th 2012, 02:07 AM
Cried and then went to bed to sleep the frustration away.
Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
Like you're not really happy but you don't wanna die
Like you're hanging by a thread but you gotta survive
'Cause you gotta survive
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
November 5th 2012, 03:56 AM
Well music has been stopping me lately. Or the promise I made to my best friend.
From day one I talked about getting out
But not forgetting about
How all my worst fears are letting out
He said, "Why put a new address on the same old loneliness?"
When breathing just passes the time
Until we all just get old and die
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
November 12th 2012, 09:54 PM
I went to bed! Look at sleep, saving the day again.
Do you ever get a little bit tired of life
Like you're not really happy but you don't wanna die
Like you're hanging by a thread but you gotta survive
'Cause you gotta survive
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
November 13th 2012, 01:38 AM
I was over 8 1/2 months self harm free, but I slipped up rather badly a week-ish ago. I could feel myself falling right back into the addiction, but I had a strong day on Thursday. I decided I didn't want it and I'm going to fight.
On Friday, my friend came over and helped me destroy then throw away my blade. I'll see how it goes from here.
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
November 13th 2012, 06:19 AM
I think I'm going to talk to my boyfriend about it and ask him if he can help...
Jay.
Buddy since 18/11/12 LiveHelp Operator since 22/12/12 Add me on Facebook Jay Louise Shorrock!
A whisper in the dark; is better than silence in the light. -Courtesy of your's truly.
My blog is open to all, those whom are easily triggered avoid, it's a story about a girl and her life and how far she has come over the years. If you read it, I hope it inspires you to keep fighting and to NEVER give up!
When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you must think of a reason to start over.
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
November 17th 2012, 11:50 PM
I read a book and then wrote some more of my own...
Jay.
Buddy since 18/11/12 LiveHelp Operator since 22/12/12 Add me on Facebook Jay Louise Shorrock!
A whisper in the dark; is better than silence in the light. -Courtesy of your's truly.
My blog is open to all, those whom are easily triggered avoid, it's a story about a girl and her life and how far she has come over the years. If you read it, I hope it inspires you to keep fighting and to NEVER give up!
When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you must think of a reason to start over.
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
November 18th 2012, 12:51 AM
I wrote more for my essay. Now im watching a movie.
From day one I talked about getting out
But not forgetting about
How all my worst fears are letting out
He said, "Why put a new address on the same old loneliness?"
When breathing just passes the time
Until we all just get old and die
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
December 8th 2012, 07:41 AM
Listening to music and sitting on here, next move to have a cold shower (as cold as I can stand) it's a hot night so yeah. Cold would give me a sensation
Jay.
Buddy since 18/11/12 LiveHelp Operator since 22/12/12 Add me on Facebook Jay Louise Shorrock!
A whisper in the dark; is better than silence in the light. -Courtesy of your's truly.
My blog is open to all, those whom are easily triggered avoid, it's a story about a girl and her life and how far she has come over the years. If you read it, I hope it inspires you to keep fighting and to NEVER give up!
When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you must think of a reason to start over.
Re: How are you beating Self Harm? -
December 8th 2012, 08:38 AM
Reading!!!! I tell myself that I need to get to page, say, 100, before I can SH, and by that point I'm too involved in the story to bother Slightly strange, but it works for me