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Question Telling my Mum I SH? - April 4th 2012, 07:53 PM

So, I've been cutting (with not-so-safe safety scissors) and I really think I need to stop. I don't exactly WANT to stop, but I know I need to. I was thinking of writing my mum a letter, since I get really awkward and things come out wrong when I talk about things like this...

But, my sister cut before me, when our mom found out she got really mad. I don't know what happened other than that, I was really small... But I don't want her to freak on me like she did my big sis....

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Re: Telling my Mum I SH? - April 4th 2012, 08:26 PM

Honestly, I'd consider talking to your sister first - how much older is she? She can fill you in on her experiences both with your mum and with stopping SH, and since you're worried your mum will be mad talking to someone else who cares seems like a good intermediary step.
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Re: Telling my Mum I SH? - April 4th 2012, 09:09 PM

Well first of all congratulations on taking the first step to ending SH, deciding to end SHing! lol But seriously that's a really hard point to get to, way to go.

In my experience, telling my family was one of the better decisions I made. It helped me to stay on track since I knew I had to stay strong to make things easier for them. My parents weren't exactly "thrilled" when I told them, but I'm sure every parents would want to know because most parents want their children to be safe.

Your mom's angry reaction to your sister may have been out of initial shock. It's a stage of "grieving" that comes before acceptance. I agree with Jas, ask your sister, it may give you a good idea. Is your sister and mom's relationship still affected by that instance? Things may be hard at first, but if it eventually levels out you'll be glad you told her.

If you're not comfortable telling your mom, a school councilor or teacher may be the next best thing. It's not the same as telling a parent, but it's a step in the right direction if you want to beat this. I think writing a letter would be a great way to tell her.

Don't be scared, what you're doing is the right thing. You've committed yourself to living a happier, healthier life and things are going to get better. I wish you the best of luck. Feel free to PM me any time (PS sorry this is so long...I kinda rambled lol)

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Re: Telling my Mum I SH? - April 4th 2012, 09:26 PM


I think that telling your sister first would be good for you because she will understand you after being in your situation herself... Then she could help you to stop and support you through it. If your worried about your mums reaction then it might be easier for you to have the support of your sister too!

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