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View Poll Results: Does there have to be a reason precipitating self harm?
Yes, there has to be a reason. 9 50.00%
No, there does not have to be a reason. 4 22.22%
I am not sure. 5 27.78%
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Does there have to be a reason for SH? - April 10th 2012, 11:48 AM

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So I saw my psychologist today and essentially was told there has to be a reason for self harm. Self harming for the sake of self harming is not, apparently, a reason.

I disagree with my psychologist on this as I see self harm as an addiction. But I was wondering how many of you think there has to be a solid reason for self harm?
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Re: Does there have to be a reason for SH? - April 10th 2012, 12:38 PM

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Personally, I don't think I have ever come across someone who just self harms because they feel like it. Often, from what I have seen, there has been an underlying issue. Whether that's a mental health illness (depression, PTSD etc) or sometimes, as a 'one off thing' due to stress of things like school work etc.

I do agree with you that for some self harmers, for example someone who has been through a traumatic experience, may start using self harm to cope with their feelings etc, but even after they've done work with a mental health professional and can cope with the traumatic experience, they might carry on self harming because it has become an 'addiction'.

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Re: Does there have to be a reason for SH? - April 10th 2012, 05:31 PM

Even when people view self-harm as an addiction (which, for the record I do) there is still a reason for it. Just like with any other addiction there's a reason behind it. It's usually physiological in nature when dealing with substances (brain changes, avoiding withdrawl etc). Or it can be psychological as in using it to cope with psychological pain. People don't do things for no reason, but that doesn't mean that you know what the reason is, sometimes it becomes unconscious for you and you have to analyze it on your own or with a professional to understand it. That's why it can be hard to stop, because until you deal with the reason behind it, you will still want to do it.

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Re: Does there have to be a reason for SH? - April 10th 2012, 06:03 PM

There is always a reason. I think that sometimes we begin self harming, and after we start we lose track of the reason why we started in the first place, and it feels like we simply want to hurt ourselves, and there's no underlying reason why we do so. But when we start, there is always a reason. It may become an addiction, as said above, but there is still a reason we started, and still a reason we continue. Sometimes you have to really think about it, and try to remember why you started. Maybe if you can figure that out, then you'll see why you have continued.

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Re: Does there have to be a reason for SH? - April 10th 2012, 09:21 PM

I personally think there is always a reason, but the person self-harming may not be aware of what it is. If someone does it, finds it helps them cope, and continues to do it, it might just help them deal with emotions. That's just as much a reason as anything else, in my opinion.

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Re: Does there have to be a reason for SH? - April 11th 2012, 01:39 AM

I think that there is a reason why someone self harms. A person needs a reason to start self harming to begin with, and that's when it starts to become a physical addiction. First people use it to cope with the things in their life that are bothering them, but then they do it because it becomes an addiction. When they self harm, though, they still have a reason to do it, they just might not be sure of the reason just yet.

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Re: Does there have to be a reason for SH? - April 11th 2012, 01:50 AM

In my opinion, everyone has a reason why they do it. They're not always the same, and it may be underlying, so they don't know what it is or don't think it's a good reason, but it's still there.
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Re: Does there have to be a reason for SH? - April 11th 2012, 02:04 AM

I think there is a reason most of the time, the person just may not be aware of it, or not sure what it is, exactly. Or maybe for a while, there is a reason, but then it just turns into need.

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