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Need some advice please... - February 11th 2014, 11:52 AM

Well, as some of you may know, I have been fighting a battle with depression...A tough battle at that.

But I have a new problem. I am movi ng to a new housing situation here in a couple weeks. I will have a dorm mate 4 of them unless I can convince them to let me be in one of the apartments on my own. My huge problem is that I am 1. blind, and 2. I am incontinent and have to wear diapers 24/7. I am worried because I can barely tell someone I trust let alone someone I don't even know. I don't know what to do...and it's stressing me out. Any advice on what I could do would be greatly appriciated. Thank you.
(the room is like a simple dorm room. 2 beds in each room and share 1 bathroom. Common area and storage are also shared.)


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Re: Need some advice please... - February 11th 2014, 01:39 PM

Hey there.

You sound like you're in a rough spot right now. So, are you going to try for an apartment or are you going for the dorm room?

If you end up going for the dorm room, you might be able to tell your roommates something small at first. For instance, that you struggle with some things and will become open with them when you feel comfortable. This way, you'll be able to talk about small things and build up that trust to make it a little easier on you. However, if you decide to ask for an apartment, you might be able to talk to someone who's mature about it. I'd say just to be honest and up front in this situation do you can get help with everything that you need.

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Re: Need some advice please... - February 11th 2014, 09:55 PM

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Hey there.

You sound like you're in a rough spot right now. So, are you going to try for an apartment or are you going for the dorm room?

If you end up going for the dorm room, you might be able to tell your roommates something small at first. For instance, that you struggle with some things and will become open with them when you feel comfortable. This way, you'll be able to talk about small things and build up that trust to make it a little easier on you. However, if you decide to ask for an apartment, you might be able to talk to someone who's mature about it. I'd say just to be honest and up front in this situation do you can get help with everything that you need.

Let me know if I can do anything to help you!
I personally want the apartment. If I have a choice that is what I am going for, however I don't think I have a choice. My only really worry is if I do hide it...where will I keep my stuff? i mean I get 2 cases of diapers a month, 13 packages..how do I hide that?


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Re: Need some advice please... - February 19th 2014, 11:39 PM

Hey Brady,
You mentioned dorm, does that mean you are going to be at a school? If so and you have a documented disability, you can request living accommodations. At my school they give the single dorm rooms to students with disabilities. I would suggest speaking to the person who does the housing. If you can explain your situation (you don't have to explain in full, maybe just provide documentation or something) I'm sure they will be willing to place you in a single. Usually people are pretty understanding when it comes to disabilities. Otherwise, I would try to get your roommates e-mails ahead of time. I'm sure it would be much easier to say something over the computer to them instead of face to face. Even though it will be hard at first, you'll find people who accept you for who you are!
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