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Maladaptive Daydreaming - August 27th 2015, 06:35 PM

I have maladaptive daydreaming (meaning I have really long and vivid daydreams that i cant really control) and have become addicted to it.When I daydream I get up and pace back and forth repeatedly (sometimes subconsciously) and people find it strange and/or annoying.I daydream mostly about the characters in books/manga i have read and animes I have seen,daydreaming about what they would do in certain situations and making up episodes/chapters in my head.I enjoy daydreaming since it is a form of escapism for me but it has become a problem for me. I have started to stop talking to my friends so I can daydream more and I purposefully walk slower than everyone else so no one will try to talk to me and interrupt my daydreaming.I never pay attention in class because i cant stop daydreaming and I have lower grades because of that. I want to be able to stop but i don't want to since the world in my head is better than the one outside.Is anyone else in a similar situation or have advice?
   
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Re: Maladaptive Daydreaming - August 28th 2015, 09:13 PM

Hey,

I can understand why this might be becoming a problem for you. I experienced something similar myself for a long time whereby I would zone out completely in class and people often commented that I was weird for it, or had to check I Was okay because my face wouldbe completely blank. Comments like that really don't help though, and people thinking badly of you as a result can't be easy!

It took me a while to snap out of it and even now I find myself wanting to go back to them, because you're right, it's escapism and that can be a lot easier than real life. I think what might be helpful though, is transfering that escapism into another form that you can manage easily. It sounds like you're pretty creative with them, so have you tried writing? That way you can set aside a couple of hours a night to write down all of the things you would usually day dream about. If you often find it relates to books you've read, maybe try writing fanic! There are amazing sites online where you can post them and people can share in your day dreams rather than it being a problem stuck inside your head that only you can experience. Creativity is a great thing to have, so there's really nothing to stop you trying something like this out!

When it comes to managing it during all of the other times though, it might be worth finding something to distract yourself with or focus on so that it doesn't interrupt your daily life. For example, try to keep a steady walking pace and maybe put some music on to focus on rather than the daydreaming. That way you'll be alert rather than absent and you can join in conversations too which will help keep you focused on that instead. Also, maybe try keeping an elastic band on your wrist and fiddle with it rather than losing yourself in your head. That's physical and it might just help you focus on the real world when you need to.

Of course, these are just suggestions and you might find that other things work better for you. I think the key part is, don't ignore them completely. Creativity is a gift and theres absolutely nothing wrong with expressing that! They're ideas which you can do things with, so work on how that can work with you rather than against you.

I hope this has helped a bit!


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Re: Maladaptive Daydreaming - August 30th 2015, 06:17 AM

Alright... as someone with Maladaptive Daydreaming myself, I completely get where you're coming from. Before I continue, I want to warn you that I tend to be very blunt, so I apologize in advance if I offend anyone. It is not my intention. Something I just want to say: Hollie, Maladaptive Daydreaming is a chronic disorder that typically can't be prevented easily. It's sort of like telling someone with ADHD to calm down or a person with OCD to ignore that crooked picture on the wall. You can try, but most of the time it's extremely difficult. Despite the fact that is IS incredibly cathartic, it's also a psychological need. Also, music is counter-productive as it makes the daydream stronger. I would advise seeing a psychiatrist, but bear in mind that MD is not scientifically proven to exist (stupid, I know) so many psychiatrists won't believe in it and might diagnose you with something completely different. (Most likely either schizophrenia or social anxiety.) do research on a psychiatrist before visiting them. If you can't find a good psychiatrist, something that worked for me is always going into a small space (such as a closet) to MD in. This causes you to be unable to pace comfortably, so the need to MD decreases. This is uncomfortable, but it cut down my daydreaming from 5 hours per day to 1 after about a week. I hope that this helps!

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Re: Maladaptive Daydreaming - August 30th 2015, 04:12 PM

Thank you for correcting me! I appreciate that and I hope your advice is useful too.


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