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Im an addictive swapper/shopper - May 22nd 2009, 03:02 PM

I find myself in debt every week. Im sure I have posted about my addictions before, but its just getting worse.

I buy boxed gameing consoles. I have to have 2 of each, so as I can swap if needs be.

This includes retro & current gameing.

I have 58 cell/mobile phones & counting.

I buy at least 2 pairs of flared jeans a week. So, once again I have about 30 odd pair of jeans, 1/4 which are two small, 1/4 which are to big, 1/4 which i dont wear & the last lot well, I only wear those.

I buy designer tops from tk max to sell them for more money.

Every little money I get I spend. Please dont tell me to put it away, because its difficult. Its like saying to a depressed person, dont be depressed.

I have a problem with swapping & shopping, I just need to know, is there any one else with the same problem?


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Re: Im an addictive swapper/shopper - May 22nd 2009, 07:35 PM

I am terrible with money and spending it, however I wouldn't consider myself to be an addict. In some ways I can relate, in terms of I find it impossible to save but I wouldn't say it was to an extreme.

If you feel that your spending is over the top, and not within the limits of what a regular shopper would spend then it's really good that you're posting. Admitting and accepting that there is a problem is the first step to solving it, right? Do you know why you spend as much as you do? I think looking at that would be a great place to start. I've been told that I have an addictive personality, and I find that finding something else for me to focus on takes my attention away from the first thing, and hopefully a step closer to sharing what I do between things, rather than just focused and 'addicted' to one thing. Do you see what I mean? Is that something you'd feel able to at least try?
   
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Re: Im an addictive swapper/shopper - May 23rd 2009, 09:47 PM

I am a bit of a compulsive shopper as well. If I haven't been shopping for a few weeks I feel like I have to go shopping and buy something. I can't live without going shopping often. I don't know why I guess it just makes me feel better to have been shopping. Until I realise how much I have spent!
   
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Re: Im an addictive swapper/shopper - May 23rd 2009, 11:13 PM

As ridiculous and nerdy as it sounds, I'm kinda sorta addicted to buying books. I can NOT pass a bookstore without going in and buying a book. Even though I pretty much live next to the library. It's great, because I have a massive collection of books. But it's awful because I probably won't get around to reading most of those books for years, and I really ought to be saving money for college.
   
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Re: Im an addictive swapper/shopper - May 24th 2009, 12:17 AM

Try giving yourself a weekly limit! Say, you can only spend 20 dollars a week and see how that goes. Remind yourself that you do NOT need more!


   
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Re: Im an addictive swapper/shopper - May 24th 2009, 01:55 AM

Hey,

Dealing with any addiction can be very difficult. The trick is to cut back slowly. I think it might be a good idea to actually keep track of your spending. If you see the numbers all out on paper it might help you see how serious the problem really is. From there you can budget yourself and slowly allow yourself to spend less and less at a pace you are comfortable with. I just want to remind you that you cannot buy real happiness. Material possessions will just give you superficial happiness. Don't cheat yourself out of the happiness you deserve by not dealing with your addiction. If you don't think this is something you can fight on your own then it might be a good idea to seek outside help. Do you have a friend or family member you could talk to about this? You could even ask them to help remind you to curb your spending if you think that would help. You could even take it one step further and think about seeing a therapist that specializes in treating compulsive shopping. Another thing you might want to try is keeping a picture of something you want to save up for in your wallet so you see it every time you go to spend money. You could even start a savings account and put the money you are able to save in there so that you don't have immediate access to it. Finding out why you can't stop shopping is really important. Talking about your feelings regarding this can really help get to the bottom of it. If you ever need someone to talk to I am here for you. Finding a healthier hobby can help you take your mind off shopping. It could be anything from writing to rock climbing just as long as it can give you a healthy release from daily stressors. I wish you the best of luck with everything. Take care and hang in there. I am here for you if you need me.

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