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I need help soon- cant stop - October 26th 2009, 05:55 AM

For 4 or 5 years I have been playing around with guys (and girls) online. Sometimes I just talk online but other times I go on webcam. I have a boyfriend who doesnt like me going on cam for guys. He doesnt want other guys to see me naked. He has tried to help me stop but I cant. When I do stop I get urges to go back online to do it. Its like how i deal with stress and it makes me feel wanted. I know that the guys who cam with me dont really want me but I feel like they do. I needed when im on cam. I know that the easy solution would be to stop talking to guys- but its like i feel guilty for stopping. I feel bad when i tell the guys that I cant talk anymore. And because I feel guilty, I dont tell them no and I dont stop talking to them. I dont know what to do. I started doing this stuff online and I was able to stop cutting- I am afraid that if I stop camming that I will start cutting to take the stress out.
I just dont know what to do anymore. I really dont.
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Re: I need help soon- cant stop - October 31st 2009, 05:57 PM

please- i literally am wasting my life hurting myself by doing this but i cant stop. please. please. i need help.
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Re: I need help soon- cant stop - November 1st 2009, 08:55 PM

Hey Karyn,

I can see why your boyfriend wouldn't want you naked for other boys to see. For stopping, pretty much the only thing you can do is to cut these guys out of your life even if that makes you feel guilty.

Now then, dealing with the pent up emotions; Why not call your boyfriend over when you need to be wanted or needed, as he could probably help you out with that. If that's not an option, try channeling your energy into something else like a form of excercise or art.

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Re: I need help soon- cant stop - November 2nd 2009, 12:17 AM

Hey Karyn!

Sorry for the late reply. [: I hope things have been improving since you last posted..even though that was only a day or go, and clearly these sorts of things take longer than that. Basically, this is like any other various addiction, right? So, you have two options: you either stop cold turkey, or you slowly stop. Whichever you choose to do, you need to find other things to keep yourself busy. For example, though I don't struggle with this, when I'm online, I'm always keeping myself busy - talking to people on MSN, on TH answering posts and HelpLINK requests, on iTunes or YouTube listening to music - you get the picture. What would be even better would be if you weren't online at all, but I think that's a little unreasonable - so much homework and communication requires being online.

So, just know that I'm rooting for you and that I think you can do it! As for self harming, I think you should check out our Alternatives thread and just see if anything there might help you: http://www.teenhelp.org/alternatives - I hope this helps.

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Re: I need help soon- cant stop - November 2nd 2009, 05:07 AM

thank you so much for the help and advice! i have only been chatting with a few guys so im not doing as much as i used to. im hoping thats a good sign haha. i am determined to eventually be ok with my bf blocking everyone i used to talk to sexually. he tried to do it before but i just undid it because i felt too guilty doing that. so im hoping to kinda like some to terms with it or something.
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