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Porn. - December 25th 2009, 08:10 AM

No matter how much I tell myself I don't need it, that I don't want it, I always get this urge that I can't help but to give in to. I never enjoy it for more than the 10-15 "it" lasts and afterward I always feel extremely regretful and disgusted with myself. If anybody has had the same problem and has found a way to help control these urges, please, help me out. :/
   
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Re: Porn. - December 25th 2009, 08:30 PM

Honestly it's not really a bad thing.
A lot of people look at it.
You shouldn't regret it or feel disgusted with yourself.
It's natural to be curious or enjoy watchng it.
So I wouldn't worry to much about it. =)

But if it really bothers you.
Just try to distract yourself as much as possible.
Go on here!
Watch a movie.
Just try not to think about it.


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Re: Porn. - December 25th 2009, 11:22 PM

It would be different if I felt like this every once in a while, but it's just about every night. It just doesn't seem healthy to me.
   
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Re: Porn. - December 25th 2009, 11:40 PM

There are people that masturbate everyday.
Its like looking up porn everyday.
It's hardly unhealthy.
I wouldn't worry too much about it. =P


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Re: Porn. - December 25th 2009, 11:53 PM

I think most teenage guys are a little *ahem* oversexed. If its affecting your day-to-day life, eg if you'd prefer to watch porn than go out with friends then maybe you have an issue. I don't think the fact you watch it every day is a huge problem but if you want to cut back then just do something else. I'm sure loads of guys masturbate every day which isn't that different anyway.
   
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Re: Porn. - December 27th 2009, 06:20 AM

It doesn't affect any part of my daily life. It's usually at night a little before bed. SO it really isn't stop me from doing anything, I just feel really guilty about it.
   
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Re: Porn. - December 27th 2009, 06:49 AM

Why exactly do you feel guilty?
It's perfectly normal to look at porn, and it's perfectly healthy to masturbate. Looking at it once every night is hardly unusual, it's only a bad thing when it keeps you from doing other things in your life.
If it's not then don't worry about it and enjoy yourself.


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Re: Porn. - December 27th 2009, 05:01 PM

I agree with what the others above me have said - It's normal - although if you feel you want to change your habits then maybe you should look into breaking the routine, have a back up plan for when you start to think about and set up some sort of reward system?

If you truly want to stop addiction - you have already jumped the first barrier by admitting that you are addicted to it.

Metallica has a post a few down from yours with links to videos on youtube that he says are an excellent resource for any addict... maybe you should take a look...

http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f124-...phy-addiction/

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Re: Porn. - December 28th 2009, 10:31 PM

First ask yourself why you feel guilty for watching pornography. There's nothing wrong with pornography...especially when you watch it in moderation. It's no different than a movie. It's entertainment. It's part of life. Just because you watch porn doesn't make you a bad person, so find the real reason why you feel guilty for watching pornography, and see if you can resolve that guilt. We all get stress -- life isn't always easy. Stress has gotta get out somehow. So if you really want to stop watching porn, you have to find an alternative...something that's entertainment and will make you feel good afterwards. That pretty much limits your options to OTHER addictive behaviors. Considering the fact that you watch porn during the night, I'd suggest you keep your door always open, and your pants always on. Hell, I'd even turn up the volume full blast (if you're not listening to music) so if I WERE to watch porn, my family would hear it.

You can also go on the TH chat. The TH chat is sometimes a lot of fun at night, and as long as it's fun...it should keep your mind off of things for the time being. Listen to music, watch Youtube videos. If you like to work out...whenever you think about watching porn, do 25 pushups/crunches. Go get a glass of water. Slap yourself across the face. (suggestion removed)

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Re: Porn. - December 29th 2009, 11:58 PM

Knowing from personal experience, once we start thinking about sex...it's hard to stop. I mean, it's in human nature, so it's hard to control something that's biological.

I'd also like to add that you're doing pretty well for yourself. I used to watch porn about 8-10 times a day. But just take your "addiction" at a slow pace. As long as you put an effort into not watching porn, you're on the right track to recovery. If you end up watching porn, don't beat yourself up and just move on. We only fail when we give up.

Good luck!

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Re: Porn. - January 2nd 2010, 03:17 PM

Its normal, especially for your age. Your hormones are just strong right now you’ll find it’ll slow down eventually but in the mean time enjoy it. Because when your old you’ll wish you could get it back.
   
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Re: Porn. - January 2nd 2010, 03:35 PM

i can think of a lot worse things to obsess over - i wouldn't worry about it, OP.. it sounds to me like you're just a normal guy.


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Re: Porn. - January 13th 2010, 06:25 PM

Haha I had the exact same problem for about a couple years. I agree that it isn't such a big deal when you put it in perspective, but yeah it does feel kind of disgusting. The reason I kicked the habit (One of my resolutions this year and I haven't broken it ) was because everytime I did it, it felt like bad luck hit me for 24 hours. That was just my personal experience but it became my motivation. My advice is that you distract yourself with other things like talking to friends online or playing games or some hobby you can do to replace that time, as well as find something about the addiction that makes you hate it and want to kick, a motivation for you to stop it.

You will definitely get urges to look at it again but just remind yourself why you stopped in the first place and what your motivation is. Best of luck!
   
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Re: Porn. - January 14th 2010, 08:30 AM

Think of it this was, if you watch allot of porn you will satisfy woman in the3 bedroom


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Re: Porn. - January 16th 2010, 03:03 AM

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No matter how much I tell myself I don't need it, that I don't want it, I always get this urge that I can't help but to give in to. I never enjoy it for more than the 10-15 "it" lasts and afterward I always feel extremely regretful and disgusted with myself. If anybody has had the same problem and has found a way to help control these urges, please, help me out. :/
I know exactly what you're talking about. I've been there.



Some think it's okay, others not so much. It can definitely affect relationships. Again, some girls are okay w/it others not. If you're to lazy to watch all 20 mins of those videos, I'll summarize.

Basically, when it comes to addictions, the brain has 2 parts... You have the pre-frontal cortex, in which all your logic and reasoning occurs, as well as the remorse that comes afterwords.

Then there's the limbic system which contains the drive for the addiction. When something triggers you or turns you on, it releases chemicals all throughout the brain, which then "over ride" the part of you that want's to stop.

Hope that helped. PM me if you need me.

Edit: I just saw QuackerJackWoop's post. Thanks!
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Re: Porn. - January 16th 2010, 04:37 PM

its perfectly natural at your age i do strange things to O_o
   
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Re: Porn. - January 16th 2010, 08:00 PM

You don't have to feel guilty about looking at porn. A ton of people look at it, I even caught my dad looking at it once, which was disturbing because, well, it's my dad, so that's different.
But I know alot of guyfriends who watch it. It's no biggie!
   
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Re: Porn. - January 19th 2010, 11:45 PM

Pron's fine but anything else. like... (animal pron) isn't normal.
   
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