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masturbating again, and again, and again - June 15th 2011, 03:59 AM

ive actually made a thread for this before, but it didnt help, so here we go again.
Ive been masturbating about an average of 3 times a day since I was 11, and at no point have I ever been able to stop for more than a few days. Ive masturbated in planes, in our old RV, each one of my cousins houses, my grandparents house, camp showers, in a blizzard when I got lost, in the woods when I got lost, and countless times in my basement, bathroom, and bedroom. Its absolutely ridiculous! The longest Ive gone without is like a week, maybe. This wouldnt be a huge problem, but ive been masturbating in front of my friend and asking him to do it with me, which is not something I would do if i wasnt horny. Hes such a pussy though, I told him, if I ever do shit like that again, you can kick me in the nuts, but he wont do it for some stupid reason.
Another problem is that until this week, Ive never been caught, but this week alone ive been caught by my mom and my brother, and my dad found a used condom in my room, which almost got me disowned. (used, meaning just by me. I suck with girls too much to get a girlfriend)
Another minor problem is that ive started masturbating to pornos ive made of myself, hahaha Im sexy. Still, ive started watching real porn again, which is bad. not to mention someone can see my dick on my phone if they searched it...
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Re: masturbating again, and again, and again - June 15th 2011, 04:19 AM

Honestly I think you're 15 you're still young. Many boys your age masturbate a lot. I would say as long as it isn't disrupting your life its fine. But you've even come to the point of asking your friend to masturbate with you and that just isn't right in my opinion. I know it may be extremely embarrassing to do this but you may need to talk to your parents and tell them that it has gotten really bad for you and that you want to see someone about it. It could be a therapist that specializes in sex or just a regular doctor who may have some tips and tricks.
I would say think about hitting a mailman every time you feel like you need to masturbate when you feel like you have done it enough times or when its the wrong time to or dead kittens. See really bad advice so I can't really help you really unless you take my advice from what I said earlier.


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Re: masturbating again, and again, and again - June 15th 2011, 04:20 AM

Well, masturbating in itself is natural, and even healthy. However, if it is affecting your life negatively, it is a problem. So I would try to lower the amount you do it. Make yourself limit to once a day. To me, that's a pretty healthy number for a teenage boy. I limit myself to every other day, because it actually makes it more pleasurable when you do it less.
Since I'm not a guy, I don't know exact ways to limit. But hopefully you get more advice. I would just advise to limit, not stop all together, because it actually is healthy in moderation.
As for the porn, just get rid of it, and don't allow yourself to do it if you think it's unhealthy.
Are you talking to a counselor, or anybody professional about any of this?


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Re: masturbating again, and again, and again - June 16th 2011, 04:05 AM

I dont have a counselor, and i dont really have a good enough relationship with my parents to get a therapist... we cant afford one (our stupid governors screwing us over). Anyway, theyd think thats pointless and unnecessary, and try to get me on some prayer thing to help me. I have no problem with praying and stuff, but I think God would want me to find a way that would actually help me.
masturbating 7 times a day is completely ridiculous, and Ive done it more than once. That cant be healthy, all I do is lay around in the basement watching sexy music videos and thinking about this girl that Im like madly in love with, who will most likely never like me. Its depressing...
   
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Re: masturbating again, and again, and again - June 16th 2011, 04:14 AM

Seven is excessive. But I don't think there's something wrong with you. Maybe you just need to find something to do, you know, get a hobby that can distract you for the day, so you can limit it to once a day?


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Re: masturbating again, and again, and again - June 17th 2011, 05:44 AM

Well, physically the only problem with masturbating seven times in a day is that you may get a bit sore from all the action. Otherwise there's not really a problem.

And, honestly, if you had nothing else to do that day, it may not have been that excessive. I would recommend looking into getting a hobby or something along those lines to keep you busy. I'm guess that you're probably masturbating so much because you're bored. You're not the only one who uses it to kill time, believe me :P Though if it crosses the line from time-killer/fun activity to something that is negatively affecting your life then that is a problem.

If you're serious about cutting down on it, I'd suggest a few things:

1. Again, find a hobby or something similar to keep you busy. Speaking for myself, masturbation is something that's easy to turn to when you're bored, so if you're busy/engaged you probably won't think to do it as often.

2. Don't masturbate as much. This seems like kind of an obvious point, but it's important to remember that masturbation generally heightens your sex drive. So the more you masturbate, the more you want to masturbate. If you can go for a few days without masturbating, it should get easier to not do it so often.

3. Make it quicker. Don't spend 4 hours watching a porno, just do it and get it over with. 5 minutes later you're done and can move on to something else. And thanks to the way the male body works, it'll be at least a little bit before you can jump back in again.


Other than that, it's really just a matter of willpower. Good luck!


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Re: masturbating again, and again, and again - June 17th 2011, 10:39 AM

I used to struggle with this, although not as severe as this case. I would suggest, like others have said, finding something to do, or when you feel the urge, try taking a nap or listening to music. And orgasms feel wayyy better when they're more spread out.

I also suggest socializing with girls. Even if you think you suck with girls, don't worry about it, just put yourself out there. Then you wont have to give yourself orgasms as much anymore. :P


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Re: masturbating again, and again, and again - June 18th 2011, 04:50 AM

3 times a day is nothing. It's a healthy activity that increases endurance during sexual activity, improves mood and relieves anxiety.

I would say to not turn away from it, but explore it more. Try new things when it comes to masturbation. Try to masturbate but delay your orgasm by starting, then stopping before you orgasm, that may lead to a better expirience and reduce your need to do it over and over again, but like I said, 3 times a day is nothing compared to many boys and girls I know.


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Re: masturbating again, and again, and again - June 18th 2011, 11:26 AM

There is nothing wrong with masturbating. But you shouldn't be practicing it that frequently. If you feel ashamed and uncomfortable doing it, then you shouldn't continue to do it. It is all about self control. Try to exercise, work out. Your hormones are causing you to pleasure yourself, if you distract yourself with things that could possibly render your thoughts of masturbating such as exercise, working out, running. You don't always have to do anything physical, you could always meditate yourself. Write about your feelings in a journal.

Once again, masturbating is very normal, but in your situation, if you feel that this is getting in the way of your private and public life, you need to take drastic measures in order to relieve yourself from this. Try not to view provocative material as you said yourself is what motivates you to pleasure yourself. Therapy is a whole different ball park. That decision is up to you, and it is yours alone to make.

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Re: masturbating again, and again, and again - June 25th 2011, 11:02 AM

Like others have said, there is nothing wrong with the act itself. However, when it's affecting your life like this seems to be, it's time to cut down.

Remove yourself from situations that trigger you, for example watching porn. It's alright to watch it every so often, but that is something else that can take over your life.

Try to think of something really not sexy if you find yourself in a situation like when you were with your friend and turned on, so that you don't put people in awkward situations.


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Re: masturbating again, and again, and again - June 25th 2011, 07:54 PM

I can’t say you’re in the wrong because I was similar to you. I use to masturbate two or three times every day. When you’re going through your teen years its such a horny faze for a lot of guys and girls alike. One thing you want to be careful of is the law, masturbating in public can get you a ticket. Try explaining that one to mom. Honestly you’re an average guy with a healthy sex drive, masturbating isn’t something to be ashamed of.

I’d recommend trying to cut down to once a day if you find its interfering with your personal life.
   
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Re: masturbating again, and again, and again - June 29th 2011, 09:25 PM

okay, i have the same 'problem'. slightly more often though, maybe between 7 and 10 times a day to me, but i have never done it outside my bedroom, never been caught (had some close shaves that were terrifying though) and, more importantly, dont let it interfere with my daily life, i still go to clubs outside of school 5 times a week. masterbating isnt bad, just dont let it interfere with your social life
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Re: masturbating again, and again, and again - July 9th 2011, 06:37 AM

Well, I got a job. Janitor at my school....... woohoo..... but actually, I hate my job so much and working 40 hours a week has cut it down to 2 times a day. I still think this is a little high considering I was gonefrom 7to 6 (with drivers ed), but really its not a problem, considering I have no social life.
and for you who told me to stop and go... that doesnt help you quit, thats half the reason ive been unable to stop. plus sometimes my penis gets used to it and I keep going for x amount of hours until I finally cum. Which leads me to another problem, I cant control the heat in my room, and it gets extremely hot and my mattress gets really smelly from sweat (I do the humping soft objects method, I cant fantasize while pumping my hand, I only do that if I really really need to.) so yeah, its really stuffy in here.
   
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