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addicted to someone - February 29th 2012, 03:22 AM

For some reason I get really attached to someone im around for even for two hours. When they leave I feel lost and empty. I dont know what to do when they leave. help?


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Re: addicted to someone - February 29th 2012, 04:54 PM

Hmm could be just you or something else. Maybe try to talk to the person to have closure. Sometimes closure can make you feel better. Closure is were you talk face to face with your friend explain why it didnt work out and why we should go are sepearte ways. Its allways sad when we loose people in are lives its okay to miss them it really is.
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Re: addicted to someone - February 29th 2012, 06:40 PM

No, Its my boyfriend and I love him and he comes to my house almost everyday. When he leaves overnight to go home I feel like im going to die then when he comes back im so happy but I dont know how to cope when he leaves. I feel so empty and depressed when hes gone. Ive never felt so attached to someone before.Even when my parents are in the hospital I dont care as much for them as I do when my bf leaves for like 8 hours.


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Re: addicted to someone - February 29th 2012, 07:31 PM

Your really attached to him its really bad as I have heard to be sooo attached to one person. You can love him yes but got to learn to do things on your own and that you will be okay you will see him another day. You really love him thats why you miss him nothing wrong with that. But try not to be depressed because hes not there 24 7 you got to still live your life with out him sometimes.

Try just thinking about other things in your life when your not around him get up and push your self to do stuff so you dont stay depressed. Huggss
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Re: addicted to someone - February 29th 2012, 07:43 PM

Okay thanks should I possibly try to detach myself from him so it wont be as bad when he leaves.?


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Re: addicted to someone - February 29th 2012, 10:19 PM

No thats called imagined abandoning. Every thing is going good but your imaging he will abandon you so you abandon him first.

Thats NOT GOOD bad cycle to get into. So no dont detach from him if you really like him stay with him just dont be depressed when the night is over. The fact is relationships dont always last its sad but true. Your young you will go through lots of bf before you find the one.
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Re: addicted to someone - February 29th 2012, 10:27 PM

Okay I wont. I dont wanna scare him away either because he doesnt like when im distant. Thanks


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Re: addicted to someone - February 29th 2012, 10:52 PM

Abby, I just answered your other post. The two are related.

First, just an an FYI, you can't be technically 'Addicted' to another person. The term is 'Dependent', as in 'Intensely needing'. Maybe this has to do with your being depressed, or maybe it's a vice versa thing....Emotional attachments (and separations from them) are a leading cause of depression...but either way, the solution might be to get back into therapy on a regular basis and start talking about all this. That way, you get a better understanding of what's going on inside, as well as learning new ways to cope with it.
   
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Re: addicted to someone - February 29th 2012, 11:06 PM

okay then I will do that. Im kinda scared it wont work out again. The last one just told me the things wrong I do in my life.....did nottttt help much.Any suggestions?


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Re: addicted to someone - February 29th 2012, 11:22 PM

Therapy is an art form, Abby...it takes a while to find someone whose style 'Works' for you..unlike, say, dentistry where any dentist can fill a cavity! think about what it is that would be helpful...someone who listens? Someone who doesn't 'tell' you what to do, or be overly directive? Think about your needs and go into the first meeting prepared to interview them and make sure the fit is right.
   
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Re: addicted to someone - February 29th 2012, 11:54 PM

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