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Accepting that I have to give up on my dreams - April 8th 2017, 05:04 PM

I've been trying for 6 years to accomplish this dream.. but no matter what I do family will seem to always get in the way. I'd understand if it was money or something but.. Its simply because my parent is to lazy to drive me and rather put her husband and his family over mine.. I've been trying so hard and its all I've ever wanted but maybe its not ment to be.. I've always wanted to be a dance (or drill team) captain with the silver uniform, hat, jacket.. the whistle and baton ... i've wanted nothing more than to lead and teach a team and I've even tried to start a team at my new school but now the sponser is holding it back and theres a small amount of students at the school...

If you have any advice,, sure but I've heard so much that is saying the same things I've already tried.. I don't feel motivated to do anything anymore because of it.. i'm sorry if this sounds bratty, i'm just really upset with bad typing skills
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Re: Accepting that I have to give up on my dreams - April 8th 2017, 11:23 PM

Have you considered finding other ways to getting to where you need to go, such as car pooling or taking a bus or getting your drivers license? I'm sure it can be pulled off if you find other ways to get there. I'm sorry your mom isn't willing to prioritize your goals though, that must sting even if she really just doesn't have time (how far does she have to drive you?)

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Re: Accepting that I have to give up on my dreams - April 12th 2017, 01:10 PM


I was a little late getting to this thread; apologies for that! I have decided to move your thread to Goals and Ambitions, as I feel you will receive more advice here.

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Re: Accepting that I have to give up on my dreams - April 13th 2017, 10:32 PM

I understand what you're going through; my parents were also very strict about driving me places when I was in high school (they expected me to be pretty independent and get places myself), and until I had my own license, I used the bus and carpool a lot to still be highly involved in marching band, theater, and volunteering 10 hours each week. It's doable, but it's hard. Unfortunately, it's not your parents' responsibility to get you places. It's frustrating when you see friends whose parents are willing to chauffeur them from thing to thing and it can make you feel like that's the standard, and you can express to them your wishes and perhaps try to come to an agreement, but ultimately, it's their decision. My parents never came around to giving me rides, even if my mom was stay-at-home for most of my childhood. If I wanted to get involved, past the age of 11/12, it was up to me to get there. This ended up being a good experience for me as it made me more independent which prepared me for getting through college on my own with little financial help from them and how to manage my own schedule and priorities.

First, I'd recommend asking around about carpooling with another person whose in dance. You can also learn the bus system of your area if there is one. Last, can you potentially get your own license and drive where you're living? I know driving laws vary by country and/or state or province, but you're at the age where that's definitely something you can look into.

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