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I've come to the conclusion that... - March 31st 2010, 10:13 PM

A) I need to find a full-time job, and B) I need to move out.

For the past two years I have been depressed and somewhat anti-social, it was making me completely miserable. Only very recently the depression has been sorted out but I'm still in my house a lot more than a girl my age should be. I quit college as I wasn't enjoying it anymore and it was making my anxiety and depression worse.

I've just been helping my sister move into her new house and I realised I need freedom :/ I love my parents but they suffocate me. I need to stop relying on other people. I need to do things myself :/ Ffs I can't even go to the doctors without my parents there. I also think this is why my self-confidence is so crap.

Obviously I have no qualifications due to my bad attendance in school (due to bullying and other things) so I will get a crap job and if I would move out I'd have to live in the same place as I do now. My sister's rent for this house is really cheap and I think if I had a job with a good amount of hours per week I could do it. I may struggle but at least it's my struggle, I need to do something on my own for once in my life.

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Re: I've come to the conclusion that... - April 1st 2010, 03:42 PM

Dont worry, im not the most going out person either, i spend most of my time at home. I do have a job lined up but that wont be for a while yet. I feel your pain :/
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Re: I've come to the conclusion that... - April 1st 2010, 06:49 PM

I just feel like I need to do something about this. I've always been scared that I will turn into my uncle :/ He's 40 and still living with his mum (my nan) everyone finds him weird because he isn't social either. He turned into an alcoholic because of it and nearly died a few years ago. He'd be dead if he didn't quit the drink.

Also, I can't deal with my mum for long. If I'm with her for too long we get on eachothers nerves. We argured earlier on today.


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Re: I've come to the conclusion that... - April 1st 2010, 08:02 PM

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Re: I've come to the conclusion that... - April 3rd 2010, 04:17 PM

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Re: I've come to the conclusion that... - April 3rd 2010, 06:00 PM

Sounds like a good idea but if you are gonna move out I would definitely advise you to get a job and save a bit of money before not after


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Re: I've come to the conclusion that... - April 3rd 2010, 06:05 PM

What a good plan

Even if you end up with a crap job, it's a bit of money in your pocket and experience to help you get a better job and it'll help you get the money to get yourself a place to yourself. The independence and everything else that comes with having a job and your own place will probably make you more social. Good luck x
   
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Re: I've come to the conclusion that... - April 4th 2010, 11:19 AM

Thanks guys ^___^ I'll deff find a job first I have £52 pound from covering a 7 hour shift up the pub my sister works and from cleaning the same pub That will go to my moving out money ^___^

The problem is there are very very little jobs in the village where I live. I may have to work in the town a few miles away. Bus money may add up quite a bit :| I'll probably give up smoking to kind of even out the bus money I'll be spending

Sad thing is I may not have the internet when I first go there I'll miss you guys <333 Obviously it won't be for a good few months but,


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Re: I've come to the conclusion that... - April 5th 2010, 11:54 AM

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Re: I've come to the conclusion that... - April 16th 2010, 04:47 PM

It's great you're trying to make all these positive changes for yourself. As far as jobs and such go, try not to tell yourself that you're only good enough for a bad job or it could become a self-fulfilling prophecy. My sister didn't go to college and she's got a really nice job that she's happy with. Just stay optimistic and work hard and things will work out.


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Re: I've come to the conclusion that... - April 17th 2010, 09:37 PM

It is good that you want to do something to change your situation. You might not get the best job to start with but you can work your way up and get a better one. I hope things work out for you
   
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Re: I've come to the conclusion that... - April 19th 2010, 07:56 AM

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I've just been helping my sister move into her new house and I realised I need freedom :/ I love my parents but they suffocate me. I need to stop relying on other people. I need to do things myself :/ Ffs I can't even go to the doctors without my parents there. I also think this is why my self-confidence is so crap.
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