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Dreaming for Change - July 20th 2010, 03:30 AM

all my life, i feel like i've never been the girl that sticks out.
i just want to find ways to change myself to the girl that other people look up to as a role model.
i can't afford to stick out the way i want to,
because my family can't afford to drive me to auditions and things i dream of going to.
i feel like nobody knows i exist except for my close friends and family.

how can i make myself stick out?
i've considered working out, dying my hair, but it seems to get me nowhere.
help, please.
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Re: Dreaming for Change - July 20th 2010, 06:41 AM

I think that to really stand out, you need to stop trying so hard to change yourself. Changing your physical appearance will change how people first see you, but it won't make you any better (or worse) of a person. Being noticed and making a difference are two very different things. People will think more of you if you stay true to yourself than if you change yourself.

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Re: Dreaming for Change - July 20th 2010, 12:56 PM

Keeley is right here dear, dont sell yourself short on this, you wont go to far if you change your looks, my best advice is be yourself, and try to make an impact in peoples lives, maybe go volunteer and shelters or something which might make people look up to you and see you as an awesome person,

And for the whole auditions stuff maybe do it for school plays and stuff, where you can just after school or something try out for there play or whatever they are doing,

Hope this helps any hun,
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Re: Dreaming for Change - July 20th 2010, 01:41 PM

If you do attempt to stick out, you're going to have to draw your inspiration from somewhere. I find that it's the people who make a conscious effort to be different that end up becoming entirely normal - fantastically obvious examples of what it means to be utterly normal. Everywhere you look you see people all striving to look and act "different" - and they all head in the same direction, confusing being different from everyone else with being different from oneself.

The people who others look up to and want to follow tend to be those who seek something unique as their inspiration, and there is only one unique thing in the world and that is yourself. Your past has given you a certain way of seeing life that isn't held by any other person in the world, and if you really want to be noticed for your good qualities, firstly you have to reconcile yourself with what you truly are, and secondly you have to let show any parts of yourself that you've kept hidden. Those who genuinely are who they are are the rarest breed of person, so you shouldn't waste your time trying to be any less than yourself.
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Re: Dreaming for Change - July 20th 2010, 05:30 PM

i see that you want to improve yourself, to change the way you are. but really, you aren't the problem at all. by my thought,katherine, you are perfect just the way you are. you are pretty already,i see it in the picture. and in personality is made and finished already. don't change THE who you are.

secondly, the only people that matter are the closest ones. who cares what strangers think of you. you can be a role model to those from your family. its not the easiest to stick out,it doesn't matter.
to stick out anyways,its just important to be yourself and to help others when you can, and to yourself have a role model. everyone must have one, and usually role models are normal regular people who are always happy and lending others a hand when they can. those are the ones that deserve respect.

and those auditions...
maybe you make into one someday. its never too late. you must have some talent. hope things turn out well.

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Re: Dreaming for Change - July 21st 2010, 11:10 PM

thanks, everybody.
i guess what i'm trying to explain is i want to FEEL different.
because the hair-dying wasn't really for anybody else.
i just like the feeling of being i guess you could say transformed.

but i audition for all of my school musicals and plays,
i have a small organization for all of the local charity events,
and i'm in the church band and stuff.

it just feels like no matter what i do,
there's always somebody out there who does it better,
or everybody else wants to be a singer, or an actress,
or anything else i want,
and it makes it harder to able to say it's "my thing".

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Re: Dreaming for Change - July 22nd 2010, 01:16 AM

i can understand that, i feel the same way a lot of times, but also thats life, there are going to be people that do something better then you, its a part of life, but take that singing or acting thing, you can still make it "your own" do it by putting your own style in it, look at lady gaga, shes a singer, but she adds her own style into it and shes a hit, so put your style into it and she what happens.
good luck with it all,
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