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It wasnt that bad if.. - May 3rd 2012, 06:36 AM

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I was wondering...is it not that bad if u werent raped....
somtimes i feel i cant talk about what happened becuz he never raped me...
he just touched me and made me touch him, he made me tuch him and he wud touch me and force himself on top of me. and push me down...make me watch him.

is this sexual abuse? what is the term for this?

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Re: It wasnt that bad if.. - May 3rd 2012, 06:57 AM

Hey there,

Yes. The term you're looking for is sexual abuse. He didn't "rape" you but he definitely still took advantage of you! What he did wasn't right and I hope that you're coping alright. It's a very hard thing to go through. I can understand how you feel like you shouldn't/can't talk about it but that's absolutely not the case. I'm hoping that you have a good support system -- friends, family, therapist, anyone who can help you through this. You deserve help and support as much as anyone else would.
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Re: It wasnt that bad if.. - May 3rd 2012, 07:11 AM

Yes. It is definitely sexual abuse. As Britt said, though he didn't actually 'rape' you, he DID take advantage of you. These things can be hard to talk about but remember that you're not alone. Try letting it out. Have a talk with a trusted adult. It'd help.
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Re: It wasnt that bad if.. - May 6th 2012, 07:01 AM

Rape is so technical, and overall, a way to victim blame. It doesn't matter whether or not what happened was technical "rape," what happened you didn't consent to and was abuse and you have the right to feel assaulted. However, you should not feel like it is your fault; IT'S NOT.

Who was this in your life? An ex? A family friend? And is this person still endangering you now?

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Re: It wasnt that bad if.. - May 10th 2012, 10:57 AM

not in my life now..but its affecting me still

I always felt that becuse he didnt rape me...I cant say anything
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Re: It wasnt that bad if.. - May 10th 2012, 07:01 PM

Yes of course you can say something he violated you. THATS NOT RIGHT. You have a voice USE IT TELL SOME ONE WHAT HE DID TO YOU.

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