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flashbacks - April 14th 2009, 02:10 AM

im having flashbacks from Dec when i was sexually assaulted..

is anyone dealing with this too?

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Re: flashbacks - April 14th 2009, 02:48 AM

Hey Katie,
Flashbacks are so hard. When they happen, it's helpful to remember to keep yourself as grounded as possible. Focus on your current surroundings, keep your eyes open, do anything you can to keep yourself in the present moment. Wrapping yourself up in blankets and keeping warm and cozy can help comfort you as well. I can give you loads more grounding techniques, if you want them!! Take good care of you and let me know if you want to talk.


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Re: flashbacks - April 14th 2009, 03:10 AM

To answer your question, yes, I am, a lot recently. If you ever want to talk about anything.. I would be happy to listen. Please, message me anytime I know how it feels. *hugs*

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Re: flashbacks - April 14th 2009, 03:32 AM

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im having flashbacks from Dec when i was sexually assaulted..

is anyone dealing with this too?
i know exactlly wat you are going through, i feel the same way..its very confusing and hard to deal with..PM me if you need to talk
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Re: flashbacks - April 14th 2009, 08:42 AM

Heya Katie,

I'm so sorry that you're experiencing these flashbacks, they're not pleasant at all. I have them too and they can really try to take over everything. You get them because when something terrifying happens to us, it can often get stored in our sensory memory instead of everything else that goes into our verbal memory. When these things are stored in our sensory memory, they're often fragmented/disorganised and have no time code whatsoever, it makes your mind believe that it's still occuring now. When one of those senses is triggered it comes out as a flashback, making you relive it all over again.

When you feel like one coming on, try to ground yourself as much as possible. Name 5 things that you can see, hear, touch, smell, taste in the room. Get your head to believe that you're safe and that you're not in danger. Try to tap anything you can, if you're sitting on something, really feel what your sitting on.

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Re: flashbacks - April 22nd 2009, 08:46 PM

Flashbacks are truley aweful things, the sensations and feelings you get are most undesireable, I have had my fair share of them since I was a young boy and I still get them occasionally. There are a few things which you can try that may help you to overcome or possibley prevent them.

Start off by breathing ...in and out... in and out...

Describing what you are experiencing.
When have you felt this way before?
What situation were you in the last time you felt this way?
In what ways are this current situation and your past situation similar? For example, is the setting, time of year, sights, sounds, sensations in any way similar to the past situation where you felt this way?
If another person is involved, is it because they are similar to a person from the past who provoked similar feelings?
How is your current situation different from the situation in which you felt similar feelings in the past?
What is different about you, your sensory experience, your current life circumstances, and personal resources now?
What is different about this current setting?
If another person(s)are involved, what is different about them compared to the person(s) in the past situation?
What action, if any, do you want to take now to feel better in the present?"
For example, a flashback may indicate that a person is once again in a situation that is in some way unsafe.
If this is the case, self-protective actions should be taken to alter the current situation.
Sometimes, a flashback may simply mean that an old memory has been triggered by an sensation or feeling that resembles the past, such as a colour, smell, sound
In such cases, corrective messages of reassurance and comfort need to be given to the self to counteract old traumatic memories. Cues for comfort and security are useful for this purpose.
It may help you to remember that whatever is happening is just a flashback, and that it is nothing more than a memory, and is something that you survived as a child, and overcame, and therefore you can overcome this now! Some intervention to ground you in the "Here And Now" as opposed to the "There And Then".
"Here and Now" (Today) "There and Then" (The past)
This intervention uses your already highly charged hyperviligence, which will help you to relax and become centred in your present environment.

Keep Breathing In and out... in and out....

If you begin to feel dissociated, or just want to induce physical relaxation, try these simple instructions:

* Name 5 things you can see. * Name 5 things you can hear.
* Name 5 things you can feel.
* Name 4 things that you see.
* Name 4 things you can hear.
* Name 4 things you can feel.
* Name 3 things you can see
* Name 2 things you can see.
* Name 1 thing you can see...

Each time you identify something that you see, hear or feel, say "I see …, I see ..., I see ..., I see ..., I see ..., I hear ..., I hear ..., I hear … and so on..

I hope this may help you.

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