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I hate when people say this - January 10th 2016, 05:12 PM

I have told both my parents that I have things I want to talk to someone about. Someone outside the family. At times I think they understand and then I overhear the conversations they have. I heard my mom say that she doesn't know what I could possibly have to talk about, she knows everything she needs to know about me. Yes, you gave birth to me but you weren't at my side constantly. I get so angry when she says this. I feel like I am going to explode. No one, not even a mother, knows everything about a person. They just don't want to see everything else because things will change. Oh well.
   
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Re: I hate when people say this - January 10th 2016, 06:50 PM

Here is something that has always helped me when I was experiencing a misunderstanding with my mom. Write her a letter. Say the things you want her to know but don't feel comfortable to say out loud. Then, approach her, ask her her read the entire letter before she responds, and then give her your letter.
   
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Re: I hate when people say this - January 10th 2016, 08:34 PM

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I'm sorry your mom said that. My advice would be to sit your parents down and express how you feel and why you want to see a professional. So things I would say are "There are somethings I am not comfortable telling you just yet but I really need to talk about them, so a therapist would really help. I am afraid you might judge me or not understand. But a therapist most likely will." Stuff like that and hopefully they will let you see someone.


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Re: I hate when people say this - January 11th 2016, 02:27 AM

That's frustrating and you're right. Your parents don't know everything about you and you deserve to talk to a therapist to get help for this. Like the others said, writing a note might help. You can explain that you've been through some things she is not aware of and would like to get help for that. You can also sit down and talk to your mom if you're comfortable with that. Keep us updated.


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Re: I hate when people say this - January 11th 2016, 04:40 AM

I'm sorry your mum said that, but the thing is a lot of mums think that they do know everything about their children. I know mine is always saying that she knows things that I don't think she knows, even if she doesn't. As the others said, I'd suggest writing her a letter. You don't have to put in things that she doesn't know, just explain that you want to talk to a counsellor and that there are things she doesn't know that you don't want to talk about to her.

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Re: I hate when people say this - January 13th 2016, 01:03 AM

I think that parents struggle when their child tells them that they want to talk to a professional. A lot of parents want to believe that they know everything important about their child and they also want to believe that if anything were wrong their child would come to them.

One suggestion I would make is that you sit down with your parents and let them know that you realize they don't understand why you need therapy and then outline some reasons as to why you want it. If some of the things are personal you don't have to share right away but maybe if you gave them a bit of an indication as to why you want to speak to someone they would be more open to the idea.


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