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Unhappy I-Is this sexist? - June 7th 2016, 02:44 AM

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Okay so this post is just.. a big question and a lot of back story

This all started with I was seven I was raped..? I think that's the right word to use I was force to um give a 16 year old a blow job and that's all that happened..
Then after that when I was 10 I started getting harassed by older men on the internet and that only stopped last year (By harassed I mean they would beg me to send nudes no matter how many times I said no)
One of my ex best friends sexually role played with me and kept going no matter how many times I said stop
I get hit by my brother (Not to often but it has happened and it hurts)
I've been in a mentally abusive relationship (I was forced to think by his ways and if I didn't he'd call me names and bully me he'd call me fat even though I'm not so that made me stop eating he'd get mad at me for being an atheist)

Okay so I have a big question.. I have a fear of men
No I don't think all men are rapist NO I don't think badly of men I just I'm just scared to meet them and scared they'll hurt me no I don't think they're worse then woman
I don't think it's sexist but every time I say it I think it is.. is it sexist? like I said I don't think their different I don't think their worse then anyone I just.. I'm afraid they'll hurt me..


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Re: I-Is this sexist? - June 7th 2016, 04:31 AM

That is not sexist at all. Having a fear like that is expected after the stuff that has happened to you.
Honestly, I can't speak for other guys, but I'm sorry that such things happened to you. Being afraid of being hurt is normal.
   
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Re: I-Is this sexist? - June 7th 2016, 05:48 AM

I was sexually abused for every day for three years, so I kind of know where you're coming from. I was that way for quite a while. It's not quite as bad now. It gets better. I don't think you can ever get over something like that, you just learn to incorporate it.


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Re: I-Is this sexist? - June 7th 2016, 10:30 AM

No, this isn't sexist. It's natural that you would fear men given everything that you have been through. But that doesn't make you sexist and I'm glad to hear that you realise that not all men are rapists.

It's understandable that you fear meeting men, because you fear they will hurt you (I was like that too, but am getting a bit better now). I'm really sorry to hear everything you have been through. Have you talked to anyone about it? It might help if you talk to a counsellor, as it will give you a safe environment to explore your feelings. You may also find that you can learn healthy coping techniques, to decrease your anxiety when it comes to men too.


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Re: I-Is this sexist? - June 7th 2016, 07:52 PM

Thank you all very much I was feeling bad because I thought I was sexist even though I'm not and i think everyone is equal thank you


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Re: I-Is this sexist? - June 7th 2016, 09:21 PM

I have a fear over older man. Always have. I never thought it was sexist it's just the experiences we had made us that way


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