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Am I being emotionally abused? - July 26th 2017, 02:50 AM

I don't know whether I'm being emotionally and verbally abused by my dad. He always yells at me for things and tells me I'm going to amount to nothing and that I'm not good enough. On several circumstances he's told me to die and kill myself. And told me he doesn't want me and that he shouldn't have ended up with a daughter like me. Or that I'm not his daughter. And he considers everything I do disrespectful even though my sisters do the same and they aren't critized at all. They never get yelled at. If I wake up to late or even once say "I don't care" or "please leave me alone" I'm immediatly yelled at. Or if I wake up to late or am awake to lie he tells me to die. Maybe I'm over reacting. Is this normal? Am I causing this? Do I deserve it? At this point I probably do.




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Re: Am I being emotionally abused? - July 26th 2017, 04:37 AM

nobody deserves this. especially not you. if he is telling you to kill yourself, it is emotional and verbal abuse. you need to get help or get out of that situation as soon as possoble. However, I would not recomend a school councelor unless it gets really bad. hang in there.

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Re: Am I being emotionally abused? - July 26th 2017, 07:43 AM

yes. being a person who has been emotionally and verbally abused, i think your dad is going above and beyond the abusive standards.

Since you're so young, I would probably recomend going to a school counsler or maybe even the police. No one should ever be told to die, or that they won't amount to anything.

From what it sounds like, You have it pretty hard. If you don't want to get others involved, work out a way to let the frustration that is sure to come with putting up with it out so no one, including yourself, will get hurt.

whatever happens, Please don't let your dad get under your skin. Don't let him create feelings of sadness or depression inside you. you have people here who love you. you have got to have some sort of family or freind you can go to if you need extra encouragement. if not, here's a little something from me.

You are Brave to be writing on this website in the first place.
You are Smart to ask other people's opinions on the matter and gather the information you need.
You are Trusting other people to give you the advice you are asking for.

Good luck and best of days to you.
   
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Re: Am I being emotionally abused? - July 26th 2017, 02:10 PM

As it has been said, what you are experiencing is emotional abuse.

Do you have anyone else in your household or even distant family you can speak to about this? Regardless, seeing a school counselor if you're able to can be helpful. A counselor could give you support and brainstorm ways to cope with the feelings that surface because of the way you're being treated.

In the meantime, it could help to make yourself a safe place. A safe place could be a physical one inside or outside of your home, or a mental one that you take yourself to when things become difficult. For example, your bedroom, a friend's house, or a favorite bench beside a hiking trail could be a safe place not only for you to escape for a while, but to practice different coping skills. A mental safe place could be a favorite childhood place you no longer have access to, or a place you want to go to but haven't been to.

You may also benefit from making plans to stay outside of the house whenever you can. For instance, when you're in school, you could join sports or other extra curricular activities. You could volunteer in your community or even just take a nice walk to clear your head. Being out of the house more could be positive for you and you wouldn't be as exposed to your dad.

Someone above listed affirmations. You could listen to guided imagery or affirmations on YouTube if you'd like to try them. Not everyone likes them but they could definitely be worth a try. You could also write affirmations and tape them around your bedroom so you can see positive things to counteract being treated negatively.

Try to remember that this isn't your fault and you didn't cause it at all.


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Re: Am I being emotionally abused? - July 26th 2017, 05:58 PM

Hi! Thanks for alk the kind responses. He tried to apologize yesterday after I kinda had a breakdown. He's being super nice and trying to give me space today. Thanks for everything you guys!! Lots of love




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Re: Am I being emotionally abused? - July 27th 2017, 07:33 PM

so glad to hear that Wonderlust... hopefully things stay that way... sending lots of love and hugs..
   
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