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My Story - September 21st 2018, 06:09 AM

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Hello everyone. Above is a link describing more about my story. But I just wanted to share how I overcame everything.

This April I had a miscarriage. While I was miscarrying, my boyfriend (at the time), thought having sex with me would make the situation hurt less, just like having sex is supposed to help with period cramps. Obviously the last thing I'm thinking about is having sex while I am physically in the process of losing my own kid.

I went public with what he did to me because I thought that would prevent it from happening to any other girl I knew. This actually wasn't the best way to handle it. It was more like a, "It's not what you say, it's how you say it" type situation.

But I learned hating him didn't get me anywhere. All it did was allow me to have hate in my heart. I was holding that around with me everywhere I went. I made myself miserable because of the situation. And now I just wish him well and hope he changes for the better, yes of course he deserves punishment for what he did. But I believe that it isn't my job to punish him. I just need to live my life.


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Re: My Story - September 23rd 2018, 01:07 PM

I'm sorry to hear that you had a miscarriage as well as had to put up with how your then boyfriend treated you.

It was really brave of you to speak out, even if unfortunately, you felt it didn't go well. It's also admirable of you to have done this in the hope that no-one else has to go through it. You are entitled to your feelings of hatred towards him, but it's also good that you want to focus on your life too.

Hope you are okay


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Re: My Story - September 23rd 2018, 08:06 PM

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I'm sorry to hear that you had a miscarriage as well as had to put up with how your then boyfriend treated you.

It was really brave of you to speak out, even if unfortunately, you felt it didn't go well. It's also admirable of you to have done this in the hope that no-one else has to go through it. You are entitled to your feelings of hatred towards him, but it's also good that you want to focus on your life too.

Hope you are okay
I am okay. Thank you for caring.


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