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close friends rapey comments - August 10th 2019, 09:20 PM

had to tell him four times before he stopped. basically telling me I can't say no. this is genuinely upsetting me.
   
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Re: close friends rapey comments - August 10th 2019, 11:04 PM

Hello,

I am so sorry that this has happened. Sending you lots of Hugs to help you and I hope that you will be okay soon.

No one should ever touch you in a way like this. Also when you say No or stop or push him away from you, he should stop right away. Not keep hurting you in this way. If you want to talk more about this, we are always around to help and listen. Also if you want to talk to someone you can also go to https://www.rainn.org and they have an area to go to and you can call on the phone or you can chat right from you're phone or computer or tablet, whatever one you have.

If you want to, would you be able to talk to someone in you're family or can you tell a friend and let them know that you are having a hard time with this. If you are not able to say it to them face to face, then would you be able to write a letter and ask for help at the end of this.

Also try to do something to get you're mind off of this to help you out for a while so that you are not thinking about it so much if you can. Try going for a walk with music or putting on funny TV shows or movies or reading or drawing or writing or calling a friend or something else that you enjoy doing. I hope that you will be okay soon. Lots of Hugs.


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Re: close friends rapey comments - August 13th 2019, 06:26 PM

Hey there,

Can I just clarify, is your friend making rape comments/jokes or are you being raped? Neither of those things are acceptable and I'm sorry you are going through this.

I agree with the above. Once you've said no, the other person should respect that and not continue with sexual activity. You have every right to say 'no' and no-one should make you feel like you can't say that and you have no choice but to go through it.

I also agree that if you have been raped you might want to get professional help and contact services such as RAINN, above. You might also want to talk to a trusted family member or friend about what you have been through and in future, try to stay away from this person.

If it's a friend that is making rape comments and jokes, and you've already explained that you are uncomfortable with these things, it's best to continue letting them you are uncomfortable and to distance yourself if they continue.

It can be very upsetting and distressing when a close friend has violated our boundaries especially when we trusted them. But you deserve support and you will get through this. We are here for you too


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