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Online - June 29th 2009, 01:15 AM

I feel so stupid for posting since people here probably have more severe problems. I think I am disgusting. I used to have "cybersex" with random people on chatrooms. I am a 17 year old male. Some threatened me, others it was an addiction....I could only imagine the creeps they were. I feel like an absolute moron, because it really is my fault. I destroyed my childhood. It first happened when I was 14. I haven't in a long time, but it haunts me. Will I ever be a person again?
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Re: Online - June 29th 2009, 01:43 AM

your problems are just as important as anybody elses and you have made some mistakes in life the first step would probaly be to forgive yourself, and you may think your childhood is gone but you still have a life to live, make the best of it. and you can talk to me anytime.
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Re: Online - June 29th 2009, 03:14 AM

should i forgive myself? i feel like i ruined my life. and that i moved off the path that would have led me to a happy and fulfilling life.

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Re: Online - June 29th 2009, 03:25 AM

It's really important to keep in mind that everyone makes mistakes. I could semi-relate to your situation. I've done a couple of things that I'm not particularly proud of. I did them out of fear and simply because I was being manipulated. The important thing is that you realize that you did something that wasn't the best thing to do and you learn from it. Everyone makes mistakes, like I mentioned earlier.

The mistake itself isn't the important thing; the important thing is that you realize that what you did was wrong and learn from it. Don't beat yourself up about something that's in the past. I can totally understand how it could be 'haunting' you but you can't let it. It seems like you're being way
too hard on yourself - especially by saying that your childhood was ruined. It will only be ruined if you allow it to be.

Take this situation, learn from it and move on. Don't stay hung up on what happened in the past because if you really think about it, there isn't anything that you can do to change the past. I think you should definitely forgive yourself. Believe it or not, there are many people who did the same things that you did. It's not uncommon - especially with young teenagers who can easily be manipulated by sick creeps out there.

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Re: Online - June 29th 2009, 03:33 AM

Okay thank you for the input. I will attempt to move on from it.
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I am really glad you are going to move on. That is great. People make mistakes and as long as they learn and move on from their mistakes it is okay. You should be proud of yourself for being able to come to this decision.

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Re: Online - June 29th 2009, 02:08 PM

Thank you for the support.

Can anyone tell me how it was for them when they tried to move on from a mistake or a horrible incident? I feel like I am obsessing too much about what happened, but I guess that goes with my anxious personality.

And I feel lik I betrayed myself and my parents. How can I move on from that really? Like I said, I would appreciate hearing about any of your experiences..

edit:I just discovered that I lost some weight in the last few days due to worrying..

Help me I can't look at my parents without wanting to throw up

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