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i don't understand.. - July 12th 2009, 12:53 AM

i got involved with this girl. and long story short, she lead me on, got with me, dumped me after two days. and i was okay with it, to be honest, because i knew she was straight and couldn't exactly handle a relationship. she always talked about her ex (bf) but i never told her it hurt me cause i didn't want to make her feel bad. but last night she...kinda violated me. in ways i don't want to describe, but i believe it was acquaintance rape. meanwhile she's been telling another girl (who is interested in her) that i tried to finger her in her sleep. and i'm trying to tell her to stop leading this girl on, and now she's twisting things, saying i'm a liar and that she "doesn't have to deal with me."

and i don't know what to do anymore... :[
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Re: i don't understand.. - July 12th 2009, 02:38 AM

Hey,

I think u should confront her. Tell her to stop spreading all the lies. And maybe if it is possible, go talk to the girl who likes her. Tell her your part of the story, or atleast let her know what kind of a person that girl is. If she chooses not to believe you, atleast you know you have tried to warn her.

If there is anyone you can go to about what that girl did to you(parents, teacher, relative etc) Keeping something like this locked up in you is bound to hurt you even more sometime in the future. And try staying away from that girl that hurt you.

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Re: i don't understand.. - July 14th 2009, 05:05 AM

Hey,
I did try to confront her, but she was angry with me, insisting that what happened was mutual. but it really wasn't... and now she's away at camp for a while so i can only write her letters or text her occasionally. i don't think i wan't to talk to anyone about it. honestly, i'm quite tired of therapists trying to get into my head. they don't help anyway. :/

Thanks for your concern and input ! <3
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Re: i don't understand.. - July 18th 2009, 03:08 AM

Hello again,

I'm sorry that she did not listen to you, people have the tendency to do that when they don't want to accept the truth.

This is just a suggestion, but If you are still texting and writing to her, maybe you should stop? I mean, just wipe her of your hands. Have nothing to do with her
anymore.

If you can't talk to anyone about it now, hopefully in time you would be able at least tell someone, who could give you advice or something. If there is anything we all know, is that you can't bottle up your feelings.

I am prettty sure it also sucks to have someone try to analyse you and talk as if they know you, but if that person could help you feel better, why not yeah?

Anyway, i'll still be here if you need a person to chat with.

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Re: i don't understand.. - July 20th 2009, 08:44 AM

Hey,

I am sorry you had to go through this but please know that with time you will heal.

I too think that talking to her might not be the greatest idea. It might help you to heal/move on if you just cut contact off with her. I know it might be hard but in the end talking to someone who would hurt you like this is not a good idea.

Although talking to someone(counselor) would be a good idea I can understand the difficulty that you might have with doing so. Hopefully, with time, you will start to feel better about talking about it.

Please hang in there and if you ever want to talk feel free to pm me.

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