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hanging out with an ex again. - August 2nd 2009, 04:19 AM

I had a boyfriend a little over a year ago who hurt me emotionally and physically. At the same time he was dating another girl. He broke up with both myself and the other girl. Two days after that, he dated my best friend for almost a year. Now he wants to hang out again. Just me and him. I want to because I just want to feel loved and I know this guy will give that to me.

My friends tell me it is a bad idea because they think he will just do the same thing as last time. I don't know what to do. I don't even know if I like him completely, I just want feel like I am important to this guy and I know I can get this. It always makes me feel so disgusted with myself that I would step this low to feel loved. Another sad thing is that I keep trying to make myself look perfect to this guy so that he will accept me. Doing all this has taken a toll on my health and all that. But yet, I still want to feel loved.

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Re: hanging out with an ex again. - August 2nd 2009, 02:05 PM

dont go back out with him,or be near him if hes hurt u once hes more likely to do it agen sorry


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Re: hanging out with an ex again. - August 2nd 2009, 11:50 PM

Hey there.

I can understand how hard this is for you; I've been in a the same situation that you are in right now. I know you want to go back to him because you feel like it will make you happy again. It's not him you want- you just want to feel loved. I had a very on and off again relationship with this one guy. The first time he hurt me I stopped talking to him for a while. Then he came back and apologised and tried to get me back, and I fell for it. He hurt me again. And then a year later he did it again. And when this happens you feel worse than what you started out as. If you go back to him there is a very likely chance that he will hurt you again and you are going to be left feeling like it is your fault for going back to him. Spare yourself the pain, he isn't worth it. He's not worth your time and you don't deserve to be treated like that. I know it can get hard sometimes and you just want someone there for you, but when you feel like that go to your friends. You don't need this guy to feel loved. It may not be the 'boyfriend' kind of love but at least you know your friends love is real. I can't sit here and tell you that you can't go back to him; that would be extremely hypocritical of me. But I do realy want to advise you to stay away from him. He will suck you back in. You deserve so much better and there are better people out there for you, sometimes it just takes time to find them.

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Re: hanging out with an ex again. - August 2nd 2009, 11:58 PM

hi there.
im sorry this is hard for you.
i also was in a very abusive relationship and i found myself wanting to go
back to him as well.

dont do it, he wont give you what you want, he will hurt you agian and agian.
A. is right there are better people out their for you, one that will love you
and never even dream of hurting you, emotionally or physically.

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Re: hanging out with an ex again. - August 3rd 2009, 05:11 AM

Thank you very much for all the help! I greatly appreciate the adivce. I told him that I couldn't hang out with him. But he is the kind of guy who can persuade me to do anything he wants me to do. So, I don't know how well it is going to go.


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Re: hanging out with an ex again. - August 3rd 2009, 07:31 PM

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Re: hanging out with an ex again. - August 3rd 2009, 07:46 PM

I hope everything works out so you don't get hurt, and I agree with everyone. You should not go back with him, he's not what's best for you. I hope you're okay!


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Re: hanging out with an ex again. - August 4th 2009, 03:59 PM

Don't go back out with him! Leave him, please, for your own sake. He is going to hurt yu & he won't change! PM me anytime


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