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I'm Lost - August 10th 2009, 12:46 AM

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I am seventeen years old and I am and have been sexually abused. It has been going on since I was thirteen and I know that I should have told someone...anyone, but it's just hard. My uncle is the one that is being sexual toward me. Kissing me, carressing my body, telling me things he wants to do to me, saying that he has to wait until I'm of age. It's digusting and just writing it here makes me feel sick. Since I have gotten older, I've wanted to speak out...to do something to make the things stop. But I don't want to hurt my family. I don't think they would believe me anyway. I'm not sure what to do and now that I am in a relationship, I can't go on pretending that these things aren't happening to me. I can't keep acting like I'm just a shell, because I know I'm not. I'm human too. So, what do I do? I don't want to tear apart my family by saying something, but this needs to stop.

Do I continue to ignore it until I'm 18 and then just stay away?
   
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Re: I'm Lost - August 10th 2009, 01:03 AM

you should tell one of your parents,and let them know its been going on since you were thirteen. dont just let him get away with it. what happens if once youve turned eighteen he goes after a different kid/teen? i think you should tell someone,if not your parents,someone you really trust.


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August 10th 2009, 02:48 AM

tell your parents what has been going on and also tell them that you are concerned about tearing apart the family. They will understand.
When you are 18 he isnt going to just give up even if you do try to stay away. And if you do manage to get away from him he will probably go after someone else.
It would be best if you told your parents.

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Re: I'm Lost - August 11th 2009, 05:56 PM

It's so easy to say to just tell someone you trust or your parents, but it's really not that easy. I live with my mom and we're not that close. I feel like if I tell her, she either not believe me or confront him. I just don't want to cause any problems, but I do understand that if I don't say something, then yeah, he could go after someone else. But it's just so hard to say something.


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Re: I'm Lost - August 11th 2009, 06:03 PM

I know its super hard to speak out about something like this...and how you feel like people won't believe you an that you'll tear your family apart. It sucks that its been going on for so long and I'm really sorry. I know its a lot easier sai then done but you defenitly need to tell someone what has been going on all these years. Once you turn 18 he won't give up on you or he might just find someone younger to go after so you defenitly need to tell someone..I know its going to be super hard but you have to thats the only way to make it stop.


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Re: I'm Lost - August 13th 2009, 08:08 PM

First off, I'm really sorry you are having to deal with this and that it's been going on for so long. Your uncle shouldn't be saying or doing those things to you. I hope you aren't blaming yourself for any of this, it's not your fault.

And I know talking with your parents is hard, especially if you don't really have a relationship, but they do love you hun and im sure they would want to help. You do not need to go through this alone. If you can't talk to your parents, find another adult you trust, but do tell someone. You deserve support through all of this.

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Re: I'm Lost - August 14th 2009, 05:00 AM

Hey there,

I am sorry you have to go through this but I want you to know that you can make it through.

First off I want to say that I know it is not easy to tell people about this because of all the mixed emotions that are rolling around inside of you but you don't deserve to be treated this way. You deserve to be treated with respect, kindness and love and your uncle is not showing you any of these things. I know it is hard but please try to speak out.

If you tell your mom make sure to tell her your fears and concerns; let her know that you don't want to tear your family apart and all of that. It really does help to tell people everything that we are feeling (if you feel up to it).

If you go to your mom and for some reason she doesn't believe you try going to another trusted adult and telling them what is going on. It will be hard but in the end it might help you feel better because this behavior will stop.

Please hang in there and if you ever need someone to talk to feel free to pm me.

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