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Unhappy I think I was raped - September 27th 2009, 11:48 PM

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I'm a 16 year old guy, and my ex boyfriend came to town a few months ago and said he wanted to hang out with me. I missed him, so I agreed, and my parents said he could spend the night. He's 20.

Right before I went to sleep, I said I was thirsty, and he said, "You can drink some of my water," and gave me his water bottle. After I started drinking, he said, "Just finish the whole thing if you want," so I did.

That's the last thing I remember, except I remember waking up in the middle of the night for the shortest moment, and I have a vivid image stuck in my head of him on my penis, but I think I went back to sleep almost instantly.

It's been bothering me for months, and that one image keeps replaying in my head. He hasn't spoken to me since he left town the next day, and I don't know if I should report it or just try to forget about it.

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Re: I think I was raped - September 27th 2009, 11:59 PM

I think he used GHB in the water because it's odorless and clear.

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Re: I think I was raped - September 28th 2009, 01:20 AM

If you think thats what happened,then i think defintely you should tell someone about it.

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Re: I think I was raped - September 28th 2009, 01:34 AM

I agree with Lil.

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Re: I think I was raped - September 28th 2009, 01:59 AM

Under UK law anyway that's not rape it's sexual assualt. However that doesn't make it any less serious. I think that before you report this you should get it clear in your mind whether he actually did this, remember there is a massive stigma around rape/sexuall assualt and you should be very careful before accusing anyone of it especially if you're not 100% sure it happened yourself.

If you're planning on bringing criminal charges then I'm not sure how successful you would be months after the event but maybe simply accusing them and getting it out in the open would give you a type of closure. It all depends on what you want to get out of this really.
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Re: I think I was raped - September 28th 2009, 02:01 AM

I agree with Lil aswell. If you think that is what happened, it would be really important that you tell someone about it.
Please do if it's worrying you so badly.

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Re: I think I was raped - September 28th 2009, 02:36 AM

Hi there,

It is so great that you decided to reach out for help here. You are so very brave and strong for admitting what you believe happened; I know this must have been very hard on you. So, good job. <3

If this is still bothering you, it is extremely important that you talk to someone about how you are feeling. Don't let this consume you; get it out. Talk about it with someone you trust; a family member, a close friend, a teacher, a religious leader. Anyone who you feel comfortable with is an option. Try to remember that this is not your fault, therefor no one should judge you for it. If they do, perhaps they do not deserve your trust.

If you do decide to take this to the police, it is important that you try and get a vivid idea of every detail of that night. Sexual assault is extremely hard to prove, especially when date rape drugs are involved. However, I do think that it may be helpful to seek some sort of help, even if it does not involve legal action.

I really hope you can get this all straightened out. This must be so difficult for you, and I'm so sorry that you have had to suffer like this. If you'd ever like to talk, about anything, I'm here.

Take care.

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