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what do i say - November 27th 2009, 02:00 PM

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i been hurt by these boys for just over 5 years now
they force me to have sex and do stuff
i finally managed to tell my teacher and she told the school police man for me they asked me to do some rape test.

but now i have to make a statement and i dunno wat to say or how to say it, im stuck!

when i get there its like i cant talk
nothin comes out
can any1 help me i just dunno how to do this?
   
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Re: what do i say - November 27th 2009, 02:55 PM

maybe you could try writting it all down on a peice of paper and pass it to the police officer or draw it and pass it to the police officer.
   
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Re: what do i say - November 27th 2009, 03:43 PM

I don't really know what to do in this situation, but you are incredibly brave. You're amazing and I'm proud of you. I know you can get through this and keep being strong. *hugs*. MWAH!


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Re: what do i say - November 27th 2009, 04:13 PM

teachers are well known snitches. Under Working Together... 2006 they have a duty to collaborate with other professionals such as police and SSD on these matters. /

If you ever don't want the authorities to know about something, then DON'T tell a teacher... but things like sexual abuse and bullying need reporting. I'm glad you had the strength to go forward with a report as this is the first step to recovery and a safe physical/emotional environment.

Schools may report almost anything. They have these CPR-1 snitching forms to "refer" you and your family to social and half of them have "protection policies" now as well. You did the right thing in this case but be careful of EVER reporting anything else as they go over the top now.

In my former school, there was this "pupil support manager" who was given full access to the pupils' files and kept them confidential. Half the parents complained that she interfered and did CAF, CPR1 etc which put their families in jeopardy. She was one of the reasons I got excluded but that's another story.

Onto how to speak... If you can't get the words out, ask the police to put you in a secure family room or similar (they should have one) and they should have anatomically correct dolls (i.e. with the private parts, unlike Barbie dolls.) You can use these to show what happened without having to speak or draw explicit pictures.
   
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Re: what do i say - November 27th 2009, 04:25 PM

i wish i cud be there. dont be scared they cant hurt you anymore. theyr behind bars. if uhave to write it down or tell ur lawyer while theyr not in the room and remember im always here for u every step of the way. xoxo
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Re: what do i say - November 30th 2009, 07:26 AM

you did an amazing thing, telling someone. you took a huge step.
as far as the talking thing goes, what about having someone in the room who you feel comfortable with? talk directly to them, and have the officer take notes in the corner. or talk to the person, and have a video camera in the corner? you need to feel comfortable when talking about this. if you dont, just tell the officer that you dont. they'll understand. this is a big thing, they will get it, and if you cant deal with it, they will be as helpful as they can be. remember to take your time, and that this will end the abuse that you've had to put up with and go thru.
good luck, i hope everything works out in the end.
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