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i was raped.... - December 6th 2009, 05:18 PM

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on november 21st....i went to a party....and i had ONE drink... and someone put something in it.....i was raped....
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Re: i was raped.... - December 6th 2009, 05:32 PM

Alyssa, i know you have talked to be about this.
And i know it's hard to realize something like this happened.
But your safe and okay.

I'm always here if you need someone to talk to, okay?
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Re: i was raped.... - December 6th 2009, 05:55 PM

im sorry this happened to you sweety.
i can understand how you feel. i was
raped in high school and it was at the
actually school. alot of things i wish
i couldve changed when i think about
what happened. It happened to me in
feb. 5 years ago. im having a difficult
time coping and dealing with it. so if
you need anyone to talk too. pm me.
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Re: i was raped.... - December 6th 2009, 05:57 PM

Hi Alyssa,

Being raped is definitely something hard to deal with. I was raped a couple times. Please take my advice when I say go report it if you haven't yet. Don't wait on it. If you wait, then you have no evidence, and also, he could possibly do this to someone else as well.

The best way to get through a time like this is to talk about it. Talk to someone that you can trust, like a therapist.

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Re: i was raped.... - December 6th 2009, 09:54 PM

thank you everyone. i actually thought i was pregnant but just found out im not. im so glad. but i just dont know how to deal....
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Re: i was raped.... - December 6th 2009, 11:50 PM

Hey Alyssa.

You don't have to know how to deal. This is uncharted territory - it's scary and hard to know what you're supposed to do after someone has hurt you this bad. You have all the time in the world to come to terms with what happened, and you have all the time to heal. Don't force yourself to 'get over' this, because everyone heals at their own pace. There's no such thing as a 'set time' for recovery because everyone is different.

Did you report it, or tell anyone about it, Alyssa? Like Brittany suggested? Talking about rape is.. very difficult at first, I won't lie to you and tell you it's easy. Think of it like a mental barrier. It takes effort and strength and courage to break past the barrier but once you're through, the hard part goes away. Once you're through that barrier, it becomes easier to cope and easier to talk about what happened. With support, breaking past the barrier isn't as much of a struggle because you won't be pushing through alone. You'll have people you can go to when you're afraid to be alone, and you'll have people to talk to when you need to get things off your mind. Support is an invaluable key to healing.

You don't have to report the rape if you don't feel comfortable doing so, but I strongly urge you to at least consider it. If you report what happened, it means not letting him get away with hurting you. It means he won't be able to hurt any other girls. And it could mean closure, as well. Reporting it could help the healing process - it might feel like a weight lifted from your shoulders. If you choose to report it, you don't have to be alone, either. You could take a friend, a family member, anyone.. someone could come with you to make it more comfortable for you. A familiar face can help so, so much. And if at some point you find yourself unable to talk to the officer, they can take over for you if need be. It's really something to think about, Alyssa. Again, no one's forcing you to report it if you don't feel you can, but think about it.

You're incredibly strong for making it this far, don't forget that. When it gets hard to keep going, think about how far you've come. Take good care of yourself.<3



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Re: i was raped.... - December 7th 2009, 12:09 AM

i've told 2 friends....but thats it. i dont really want to report it
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Re: i was raped.... - December 7th 2009, 12:15 AM

i didnt report it and it was years ago.
what haunts me till this day is i might
have let this happen to someone else
and i've lost alot of self respect. i am
hurt by what happened but more
bothered by not saying anything to
anyone...no friends no family...no
therapist and no police. i regret it.
nothing i can do now but i can only
let others know how hard it is to
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Re: i was raped.... - December 7th 2009, 12:20 AM

i've washed all evidence off me tho....
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Re: i was raped.... - December 7th 2009, 01:42 AM

I'm very saddened to hear that this happens so often to people. You should go and report it; despite how embarrassing it may be, just think that the person behind this would get put in jail, but on a sex offender list, and most likely not ever do this to someone else.

I really think you should attack him back with the law, and tell him that you are not simply going to let it slide by.
   
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Re: i was raped.... - December 7th 2009, 02:18 AM

You need to report it. It could happen to someone else if you don't break the cycle.


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