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Too scared. - January 16th 2010, 02:10 AM

A little background or you can always read my previous posts: 8th grade sexually assulted by best friend told he got in a "little" trouble, junior in high school goes to same high school. Present: He's in the same lunch period as me. He sits close to the table I sit at with my friends. My lunch table cannot move to a different one because all other lunch tables are pacted. But anyway when ever I go to lunch I get super nervous and can not be in peace. I'm scared to talk to my counselor about it because she thinks im over the whole thing. I told my mom and she said "it will be over soon" and I'm also scared to tell a teacher. I just can't. Any advise?


   
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Re: Too scared. - January 16th 2010, 02:14 AM

I don't see why you wouldn't tell someone. You really need to tell someone to let it out. I think the longer you hold this in and let it worry you, the more paranoid you'll become.
I advise you to talk to someone, anyone at all.
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Re: Too scared. - January 16th 2010, 02:36 AM

Hey Meg,

You said you sit with a group of friends, is there one of them that you really trust? Maybe you could try talking to one of them, let them know what's going on, and maybe they can help you out at lunch.

Also, do talk to your counselor. We all heal in our own times, so it's perfectly okay if your not 'over it'. You'll probably never be over it, but it does get better eventually. Just hang in there, and talk to someone.

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Re: Too scared. - January 19th 2010, 02:37 AM

Kikyo and cas* said it well. You need to talk because talking helps confront the issue itself. And also, you should not let yourself be afraid anymore of this guy. Because fear will rule your life if you do. Talk and try your best not to be afraid anymore. But remember it will take time still to heal.
   
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Re: Too scared. - January 20th 2010, 01:34 AM

I didn't do it I guess I'll try agian tomorrow, today I think he said something to me it was very quiet but still... i'm so scared


   
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Re: Too scared. - January 25th 2010, 01:01 AM

Still don't know what i'm going to do... I love my crazy life...


   
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Re: Too scared. - January 25th 2010, 01:04 AM

talk to a school counsellor or a friend about it... if you talk to one of your friends that you have lunch with they can make sure they always have your back.





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Re: Too scared. - January 25th 2010, 10:09 PM

well i talked to my friend. she was supportive. she does not want me to leave (the lunch period) but she understands why i want to leave. honestly, i want to get out. i have flashbacks normally but when i'm at lunch there really awful. so yupp. i don't know.


   
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Re: Too scared. - January 26th 2010, 02:28 AM

Hey there Meg.

I definitely think you need to do what's best for you in this situation. If you would feel safer in another lunch period, then I think you should try and switch. You don't deserve to have to worry and be in fear of him while you're trying to enjoy that bit of free time in the school day. You could always see if one of your friends wanted to switch with you too. This way you wouldn't have to make the switch alone.

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Re: Too scared. - January 28th 2010, 01:13 AM

guess who has a guidance counselor apt tomorrow? i do. hoping i don't back down. :/


   
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Re: Too scared. - January 29th 2010, 01:10 AM

couldn't do it thinking about trying to make it through next friday when i have a apt with my therapist.


   
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Re: Too scared. - January 30th 2010, 06:04 PM

You have to be strong and do what you have to do. Don't be afraid anymore, resolve to no longer have any fear. But when an opportunity presents itself to be courageous(such as talking to a therapist) then talk and don't be afraid.
   
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