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Post Verbal Abuse. How do I handle it? - January 19th 2010, 02:23 AM

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My step-dad yells at me everyday. Tells me I'm worthless and I'm a mistake. Tells me I'll never be good enough for love and tells me he wishes he could kill me.
He's told him a variation of this everyday for years and years now.
When I turned about 14 I began to stop telling him he's wrong. And I let him believe he's right, because in some sense, I believe it myself.
My friends hate that I'm hard on myself all the time and that I say all these things about myself.
But they don't realize that I say it because I've been raised to believe it's all true.
I don't know how to handle the things my stepdad says to me. Or how to make myself not believe him.
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Re: Verbal Abuse. How do I handle it? - January 19th 2010, 04:16 AM

Hey Samantha,

Could you try talking to your mum? Let her know how your step dad is making you feel, and how he treats you? You can even write her a letter if you can't say it outloud, and just leave the letter where she can find it, or send her an email.

You could also try talking to your school counselor, let them know how hard things are right now, and what's been going on at home. They can give you someone to talk to, and can help you handle everything that's going on.

What your stepfather says isn't right, and it's not true. You are not worthless, and you are not a mistake. Sometimes adults take their anger out of kids, even when it's not the kid's fault. It is not your fault, and the best thing to do would to just listen to him, but not to let him get to you. Ignore what he says, because it's not true, not at all.

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