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overreacting - January 19th 2010, 08:33 PM

sunday my friend's and i went to a popular lgbt club and when we were leaving the dance floor, i was leading off, this guy...
he lifted my dress and touched me. i swatted his hand away after realizing what just happened and as i did he smiled at me this creepy, you should feel honored smile.

i felt, and still feel, sick and i told one of my friends and thought i was gunna throw up in the process. it brought back some memories that i've done pretty well to forget.

my friend and i talked about it the next morning and she said if it was her, she's get pissed then over it. which makes me wonder if i'm over reacting?

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Re: overreacting - January 19th 2010, 10:02 PM

Hey Ella.

You are not over-reacting. What that person did was inappropriate and upsetting, especially considering that it was triggering to you, as well. I'm so glad that you felt comfortable enough to talk to one of your friends about this; you deserve all the support in the world, and the first step to getting that support is to reach out and ask for it.

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Re: overreacting - January 19th 2010, 10:40 PM


You're definitely not overreacting! The truth is, nobody knows how they would react because they've never gone through it. Until you experience it first-hand, you just can't know. So even though your friend THINKS that's how she'd react, chances are, it's not! And you have every right to be upset. This guy violated you, which is never, EVER okay. Not to mention that it brought up a lot of feelings and memories about past events--so this is pretty intense for you. You did NOTHING wrong, this is not your fault, and you have every right to feel however you are feeling.

Please think about reaching out to someone in your life if this starts to really get to you or you want to talk to someone about it--you always always always deserve help.

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Re: overreacting - January 19th 2010, 10:45 PM

Hey there Ella.

I just wanted to add my support. I agree with everything Jessi and Jen had to say. You are not overreacting at all. We can't help how our emotions react to certain situations and what they will bring up. We have to allow ourselves to feel whatever emotions come to the surface and talk about them. It's good that you have a friend you trust enough to confide in. And you will eventually move past what happened Ella. Just give yourself some time.

It might also help for you to talk about some of the memories you were trying to forget. It only works to burry things for so long before our minds have to get them out. I have a lot of faith in the power of talking and therapy so when you're ready, I think it would be a good idea to give it a try. It's nice to have someone you can talk with privately and who will help you work through everything.

I hope you're okay and be good to yourself. You can PM me anytime.
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Re: overreacting - January 19th 2010, 11:09 PM

Sometimes things trigger you, and others don't understand why. It'll take a while, I'd be shocked too, but I think you'll be alright. I expect this person was drugged up in some way to do something like that.

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