Emotional Abuse

[*MusicIsMyLife*]

I was threatened verbally, I was told by someone that I am no good, worthless, I am called names everyday.

What can I do!!

[Emily.]

Hey there Rebecca.

Verbal and emotional abuse can be really hurtful and damaging to your self-esteem. No one should use words to hurt you and bring you down and you are not worthless hun.

I don't know who is saying these things to you, but if it is an adult I definitely think you need to let someone know. Tell your parents or your school counselor. No adult should ever say such things to child or teen.

If it's a peer you should still let someone know. A lot of times kids and teenagers put other people down because they are insecure about themselves. This doesn't excuse what they are doing at all, but just know that what they are saying is not true. It's usually just a way to make themselves feel better.

I'm not sure where this is occurring and such, but if it's happening where there are authority figures, such as at school, I think it would really help you to talk to a teacher or another adult around you. Sometimes kids say awful things and it takes an adult stepping in to kind of set things right.

Another thing you could try is to talk with whomever is saying these things to you. They might not realize how hurtful they are. I had this girl in my class when I was younger and I said some pretty awful things to her growing up, but we got to talking one day and she explain to me how much I had hurt her and she is one of my best friends now. I know not all situations can work out that way, but there really is power in talking things out.

Just remember that you are not worthless Rebecca. I'm sure you are a wonderful person with a lot of things to offer this world. Keep your chin up and don't be afraid to reach out for help. You can use a lot of these hotlines to talk about emotional abuse/bullying too.

I hope you are doing okay right now. Be good to yourself and feel free to PM me anytime.
<3 Emily

[*MusicIsMyLife*]

I was also sexually assaulted and I am scared and feels like its all my fault and feels worthless.

[Emily.]

What happened was not your fault Rebecca. Not at all. It is never the victims fault in situations like this. Have you told anyone about what has happened? If not I think it would be a really good idea. Talk with your parents, a teacher, school counselor, the police, any adult you trust. You deserve support through all of this.

I think it would also be a good idea to talk with a counselor. It's hard getting through an assault and therapist can help you work through what has happened and help you find ways to cope. It's also just nice to have someone you can talk with and know it will be kept confidential.

I hope you are doing okay right now. Please don't be afraid to reach out for some help and you can PM me anytime.
<3 Emily