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Question how can i help my girlfriend? - January 27th 2010, 10:55 PM

today i just found out that my girlfriend in ohio was raped 2 years ago. i need help talking to her about it, because i don't know how/what to say. please help me, my girlfriend really wants me to help her forget this.


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Re: how can i help my girlfriend? - January 28th 2010, 12:27 AM

Although she may not like to hear it, a rape is extremely hard to forget about. The best she can do is to accept it and move on with her life. I think you need to ask her IF she wants to talk about it. Sometimes letting it out, every little grueling detail, can make us feel better afterwards. Just let her know, you are here for her to talk to and you will do your best to help her through it. Suggest she talk to a professional if you feel like you aren't doing enough. You should ask her what you should do to make her feel better because unlss your superpowerful, you can't read her mind.

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Re: how can i help my girlfriend? - January 28th 2010, 02:56 AM

Hey Alex,

Well, you can't just forget about being raped, it's something you'll never forget. I know your worried about her, but all you can really do right now is be there for her. You can, as Alessa said, offer to listen if she wants to talk. Tell her to write it down, sometimes getting in out, even by writing, can help. She'll never forget it, but she can move on and not let it affect her life.

If you don't feel comfortable talking to her, suggest that she tak to a counselor, or even suggest TeenHelp to her.

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Re: how can i help my girlfriend? - January 30th 2010, 10:17 AM

Hi alex
just go and meet ur girlfriend and make her realize that you gona be standing with her forever.......your love for her is true and it is never ending.
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