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Unhappy Sexually Assaulted - February 7th 2010, 01:39 PM

I was sexually assaulted 4 times by the same person a couple of months ago. I am really scared to report it. This person told me that if I report it he will do something bad to me. He thinks that he could do it many more times. He is making me do things that I don't want to do. I can't deal wiht this alone. I am really scared. I think that its all my fault.


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Re: Sexually Assaulted - February 7th 2010, 01:58 PM

First of all: it's NOT your fault. Really. You really need to report him, the police will help you and he won't able to do anything if the police catches him.
Do you see him regularly? Do you know him? How do you think he could do something bad to you? Does he see you? Does he know where you live?
   
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Re: Sexually Assaulted - February 7th 2010, 02:11 PM

This is definately not your fault! You should tell someone about this, someone you trust. And then go to the police! This man needs to be stopped before he assults you or anyone else again. He won't be able to do anything if you tell the police, because they'll help you as much as they can to catch him.

Try to be strong, and tell someone! Take care



   
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Re: Sexually Assaulted - February 7th 2010, 07:25 PM

Hey there Rebecca.

First thing I wanted to say was that the assault was in no way your fault. The only person to blame is the guy who hurt you. He is an awful person for what he has done, but you did nothing wrong.

I also agree with what the others have said. You should talk to the police and report him. You deserve to be safe and you wont be with him still out there threatening you. A lot of times the only power they have over us is if we keep their secret. Once it's out, that power goes away.

I think you should also talk with your parents hun. I know it can be hard, but you deserve support through all of this and I'm sure they would want to be there for you. You don't have to go through this alone. It might also be a good idea to give counseling a try. It can be really helpful to talk to someone about everything that has happened. Plus it's nice to have someone who will listen and keep things confidential.

Keep yourself safe Rebecca and please reach out for help. You can PM me anytime.
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Re: Sexually Assaulted - February 7th 2010, 09:29 PM

Hey Rebecca,

It's not your fault, not at all. It doesn't matter how many times it happened, it's still not your fault.You should report it, but that's completely up to you. Bby telling someone, you take away the power he has over you. If you are afraid he will hurt you, talk to someone, let someone know what's going on.

Talking to a school counselor, even if he doesn't go to your school, can be helpful, as they can give you an outlet, and can help you work through it. You are not to blame, he is.He shouldn't have hurt you, he shouldn't still be hurting you. You need to tell someone, please, so that he can't hurt you anymore.

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Re: Sexually Assaulted - February 7th 2010, 10:08 PM

Hey Rebecca,

Like the others have said, you are not alone in this, and it is not your fault. I have been through the same thing you have, so I understand that you may be scared to report it. When you do report it, he will most likely go to jail, so he can't hurt you. He knows what he has done was wrong, which is why he is threatening you if you go to the police.

I highly recommend that you do report it because you never know he could be out doing this to other girls as well. If you wait too long you may be able to stop him from doing it again. PM me if you need anything

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Re: Sexually Assaulted - February 7th 2010, 10:16 PM

I believe the others have said it all. Can't think of anything else to add except it is impossible to handle alone. ( been through it myself) And now that you have started to talk about it you are no longer alone. (...and it is NOT your fault)

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Re: Sexually Assaulted - February 8th 2010, 12:43 AM

Hey Rebecca,
What this guy has done to you is not your fault. You couldn't over power him I'm sure, and even if you could over power him you could be in shock and feel unable to do anything. Please do not blame yourself. You're only letting this disgusting guy win if you do. You blaming yourself only makes it okay for him to do what he did and it's not okay.

You really need to report this, if you do then it could save other girls from experiencing what you have been through and if you can save one girl then that is something.
Speaking to people really does help to get things out of your system and it really does help you to over come this and not be afraid anymore.
Your fear of this guy is only allowing him to go and do exactly the same thing to someone else and you're making him stronger.
Please do the right thing by yourself Rebecca.
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