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Frustrated - February 17th 2010, 01:18 PM

Ever since the stuff about me being abused by my brother when I was a kid has come out, my councillor has been trying to get me to talk about it. I don't want to talk about it. It's not directly causing me any problems anymore. I's not to root of my problems. Talking about it is only making things worse. I don't want to remember it. Making me think about it is screwing with my head. I hate this. I don't know what to do.
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Re: Frustrated - February 17th 2010, 02:25 PM

Hey there Ella.

While I do think your counselor has your best interest at heart here, you don't have to do anything you aren't comfortable with or ready for. Talk with your counselor and explain that the abuse isn't something you want to talk about right now. Hopefully he/she will respect that.

I also just want to add that I do think it is something you are going to need to get out and talk about at some point. Maybe you aren't ready for it right now, but holding it in is not going to help you. Trapped inside, memories can really start to hurt and weigh you down. Maybe you aren't experiencing that and hopefully you never will, but don't be afraid to talk about it. It's not a secret you have to keep. And sometimes bringing up the painful things in our past does make things worse. It's one of those times where things may have to get rather awful before they can start to get better. But you do deserve to get better Ella.

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Re: Frustrated - February 19th 2010, 04:03 AM

Hey Ella,

I know it hurts to talk about it, but your counselor is only trying to help. Have you tried telling them that you do not want to talk about it, that it is not bothering you, and that it isn't the cause of your problems right now? Being honest with your counselor is the only way to get them to help you.

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