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Exclamation How do I get over it? - February 17th 2010, 07:24 PM

When I was a kid I was raped twice. I know both of the guys that did it and I never turned either of them in for it. I never told anyone about the second time until a year ago. I kept my mind busy so I wouldnt think about it. 2 or 3 years ago I started taking an anti depressant because I was having dreams about it and would be afraid to sleep. I want to get over it and move on with my life but ever since my mom found out she keeps asking me questions and making me remember things I want to forget. Ive been counselors and they dont do much for me. How do I get over it?
   
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Re: How do I get over it? - February 18th 2010, 01:17 AM

i haven't been able to get over what happened to me either. But it's recently that it's happening to me. the best way I can find is to be with my friends and talk to them about what is going on. It was hard to open up to them.
   
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Re: How do I get over it? - February 19th 2010, 03:51 AM

You can't really 'get over' it. You have to learn to handle the emotions, the flashbacks, and the thoughts to heal. Your mum might just be trying to get it to make sense to her, or to help. Talking about it can help, and often does help.

I know the counselors don't seem to help sometimes, but you got to keep trying. Keep talking, don't just keep it locked in.There is no way to get over it, as rape is something that will stay with you for a very long time. But you can learn to deal with it, so that it doesn't bother you, or so that it doesn't effect you as badly, so that you can handle the thoughts and the flash backs fade. You can learn to live with it. But it is extremely hard to do alone.


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Re: How do I get over it? - February 20th 2010, 01:55 PM

Hi.

Everything Casey said is true. It definately is something that can't be erased from your life. Opening up and talking about it to your mum, the councilor, and anybody you fell comfortable with does help a lot with dealing with it. ( it did for me) I know that would be difficult at first.

I found that once I was able to handle the flashbacks, thoughts and feelings, my life was back under my control and that made it easier to get on with my life.

I hope this helped.

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