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hard to relate - February 25th 2010, 10:48 PM

does anyone else find it very hard to relate to other people of their age (for me that is 19)
i dunno if thats my personality anyway or a factor of my abuse.
but ever since i first got raped even though i was very young. ive felt very aware my whole life. i dont ever remember feeling safe or childish.
just wondering if this has occured to anyone else

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Re: hard to relate - February 25th 2010, 11:18 PM

I Find It Easier To Communicate With Female Adults Rather Than People My Own Age(16) But Then I Have Been Abused Too So Im Not Sure If That Would Be an Affect Or Just A Personality Thing! xx
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Re: hard to relate - February 26th 2010, 03:21 AM

I also can't relate to people my age. (unless they have been abused)

I totally believe it is the result of those psych and therapy sessions that basicly made me deeply examine my self, feelings, and life to deal with the rape.

This may sound wierd coming from a 13yr old, but I feel I have lost my childhood.

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Re: hard to relate - February 26th 2010, 07:06 PM

Yea, I find it hard to relate, a lot of my friends are older like 30+, not sure if its the abuse, or I just get on better with adults because of the intellectual side :]

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Re: hard to relate - February 27th 2010, 01:20 AM

I don't think it's too uncommon - experiences change a person, it's understandable that after someone's been hurt this way, they think differently than others, see things in a different perspective etc. I also think, abuse or assault causes you to grow up faster, in a way, because you've more to cope with than others your age.

I've had trouble relating to friends my age since I was about thirteen - my closest friends are all two or three years older than I am.

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Re: hard to relate - February 28th 2010, 12:05 AM

I used to find it very hard to relate to people my age. But now I'm twenty, and most of the people my age have finally grown up, although it's still hard to relate to some of the ones who haven't been through it. It's harder when your younger and something happens, because not many young teenagers get it, so it's hard to be able to relate to them

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Re: hard to relate - March 1st 2010, 08:25 PM

I have had this problem as well since about the eighth grade when my first assault happened I think it is a result of having to grow up to get through it and also the loss of innocence makes you feel you are older than you are.

Now that I have been through three assaults I talk to almost no one my age because they don't like me, say I am too stuck up because I don't do the same stupid things they do. They don't see that I'm not stuck up I have grown up way past my years.

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Re: hard to relate - March 2nd 2010, 01:02 AM

I find it difficult to relate to people my age, I think i always have - at least since I was abused by my older brother at age 9. x
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Re: hard to relate - March 2nd 2010, 01:41 AM

Im 16 and Ive always acted older than I really am which makes it hard to relate to people my age. most of my friends are older than me. I was also abused when I was really young so I never really had much of a childhood. When I was 13 I had to grow up really fast to help take care of my mom.

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