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Does this count as sexual harassment/abuse? - April 8th 2010, 12:46 AM

Okay, so recently I was talking to a few people. One of them was my friend, the other two I only kind of knew.

Anyway, one of the guys I didn't know very well, we'll go him L, started joking about giving me a lap dance. My friend, S, and the other guy, O, started joking that they'd pay him to. I joked a little too, and I didn't think they were actually serious.

Later that week, L told me he was going to give me the lap dance. I realized he was serious. I told him to get away from me, but he ignored me. He got on my lap and I started screaming for him to stop. I'm not sure how to describe what he did, it wasn't that bad, there was no taking of clothes or anything, but he was sort of grinding with me and grabbing my breast. Everyone acted like it was funny, but I was really upset.

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Re: Does this count as sexual harassment/abuse? - April 8th 2010, 12:53 AM

Yes, that is sexual harassment because you did not give him permission to do that to you, in fact you told him not to. If I were you I'd report it. If those other guys supported this act and treated it as funny they are not really your friends.
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Re: Does this count as sexual harassment/abuse? - April 8th 2010, 05:31 AM

Yes, it is considered sexual harassment, as you did ask him not too. He might have meant it as a joke, but he should have stopped when you told him too. I don't know your age, but your best bet would be talking to your parents or your counselor about it. Reporting it is up to you, however. And no, you are in no way overreacting.


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Re: Does this count as sexual harassment/abuse? - April 8th 2010, 05:46 AM

Definitely is sexual harassment. I mean he was harassing you was he not? And it was sexual wasn't it? I would report him. I mean you said no. How far will he take it next time? Ya know?


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