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flashbacks - April 14th 2010, 09:06 PM

ive never really suffered badly from them. but recently there really strong. mainly when im asleep but now when my mind drifts it will suddenly hit me. so much so i can hardly breathe sometimes.
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Re: flashbacks - April 15th 2010, 04:19 AM

The best thing to do is to distract yourself, or to try to ground yourself. Everyone deals with them differently, since everyone is different. Grounding yourself might help, however. By that I mean making yourself aware that it is not happening again, naming things you smell, feel, touch...your surroundings basically. There's also a really good thread on handling flashbacks here.

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Re: flashbacks - April 15th 2010, 07:10 AM

Hey there,

Sorry you are having to deal with this. I know how difficult it can be!

I think the link about grounding yourself would be a great thing to check out.

One thing I want to convey is don't fight the flashbacks. I find that when I fight the flashbacks they last longer than when I let them come. Whenever I start having a flashback I grab onto my stuffed unicorn and I just hold onto that. I use my stuffed unicorn to ground myself because even though I am in the middle of the flashback I can still feel the softness of my stuffed unicorn and that helps me realize that I am in the present. Do you have a soft stuffed animal you could sleep with?

Something else that I find that helps with it all is writing down what I have a flashback of or talking to someone about the flashback. I find that when I voice what happened that memory tend to go into my 'storage box' and it does not have a reason to come back up again. Maybe it will be the same for you. The more you talk about it or write about it the more the memories become 'real' and the less your mind has a need to flashback. At least that is what I have found.

Remember that you will have your good days and bad days but you will come out on top of all this. Never give up on your ability to heal.

Best of luck and if you ever need to chat feel free to pm me.

However, you can and will make it through all of this. You already survived the abuse and that is the toughest part. The memories are bad but having already survived the abuse they are just memories and memories cannot hurt you.

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