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Question Talking - April 28th 2010, 10:25 PM

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Do you all find it hard to talk to those close to you about being abused? I am really starting to want to open up and tell someone more than just pieces of what I have been through, but I also don't want to tell anyone like my best friend or my boyfriend necessarily. A few of my friends know some part of what happened, they understand I was just a kid and that it really messed me up in a lot of ways. I think I am getting to a place in my recovery where I want to tell someone what happened, but I am afraid to tell like my best friend, who doesn't know, or my boyfriend, who knows but not details. I want to tell someone more distant, just to get it out. I want someone to hold me close and force me to tell them when half way through I feel like the pain might kill me. I just want them to be more distant so that if they react badly then I haven't lost someone terribly important. I don't trust anyone to understand... I'm not sure anyone can.

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Re: Talking - April 29th 2010, 12:14 AM

Hello there,
A lot of people that have gone through these things often fear a repercussion of some sort if they tell the people they are close to about these things. Do not worry about this though, as what happened to you was not your fault. If they really care for you they would be there for you. It is good that you are starting to open up and release the pain that has built up inside you. You will have nothing to fear by telling them, and even though it may be hard to do, you will likely feel a bit better after you tell them, should you choose to do so.
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Re: Talking - April 29th 2010, 03:49 AM

I know I will probably feel better... I just suppose that I am afraid. Maybe I am not ready after all... I just can't tell someone who cares about me. :-/
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Re: Talking - April 29th 2010, 05:16 AM

i know where you are coming from. I faced the same problem (though it wasn't abuse that i was openning up about). When I revealed my deepest secret, it was to a teacher whom i am close to. He was great. He helped me to get the help I am now receiving and he listens to me when I speak to him about it and tries to put things in perspective. Since then, we have only grown closer and I don't regret telling him at all.

So telling someone like that would maybe be helpful. A teacher or something.

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Re: Talking - April 29th 2010, 10:39 PM

Sometimes the people you're closest too are hardest to tell things to. I have no problem talking about loads of stuff on here, to foreign strangers, but there's so many things I would never be able to talk about with my friends.
However, I think it's really important to talk about stuff like this ~ it can make you feel so much better (: Have you thought about maybe talking to a counsellor??


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Re: Talking - May 2nd 2010, 01:00 AM

Hey,
I have thought a little bit about talking to a councilor but to be honest its something that I don't know I am comfortable with. I guess what I really want is a friend, who cares, who isn't going to judge me to hold me and let me take my time. Tell me its ok when I get scared, and push me to finish my story. I am just not comfortable with that person being one of the two people I love most. I am not sure why.
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